Can a man be in love with you and still want to sleep with other women?

Question

My hubby swears he is in love with me but he has cheated in the past and really wants to sleep with other women. Do all men feel this way? Can you be in love with someone and still wanna sleep with someone else? Any help would be great

Answer 1

Speaking from both ends of the spectrum, I have cheated on my husband and he has cheated on me. When I cheated, he was serving in the military, out of the country for 18 months. I never stopped loving him. Or fell out of love with him. There is a difference between sex and love, and mostly women have a harder time differentiating between the two, but I did just fine at it. My husband recently had an affair due to a failing marriage and other reasons, we are repairing the marriage, and i asked him for the honest to God truth where his love for me was at the time and this is what he said. At the time the affair started, he did love me, as the affair dragged on, and our marriage continued to deteriorate, he lost the love for me that he "should have had". When he got caught cheating, he said he soul searched, like what he really wanted. He had a wife and a gf, and had to make a choice. He told me that as messed up as it may seem, his affair made him realize what he had standing in front of him the whole time and that he did love me the way he is supposed to love me. Anyway, i feel that you can love someone and cheat on them. Many people will say thats not "true love" or respectful, disrepectful, maybe, but it all goes back to the whole thing that sex is different than love. If your considering allowing to let your husband have his cake and eat it too, be careful, there is the HIV/AIDS issue and suggest to him that you would like your cake and to eat it too, and see if that changes his tune. Good luck.

Answer 2

A different view from a man.... I'm single but in love with someone. I have been with other women....some she knows about and some she doesn't. Being older, I don't look at sex the same way I use to. Now it's more the fun of doing it, then any heart feelings. There are quite a few ladies out there that just want to play..........so sometimes I play. Now for the love part, I know the one I'm in love with I'll one day marry and be with forever, just not yet. She and I started out as f---buddys. Help: Tell him to stop!! If she told me to stop or it was over , Then I'd have to stop, I guess your husband is getting away with what you let him..........so don't let him get away with it.

Answer 3

Your husband is a selfish pig. He is too immature to have made the marriage commitment as he obviously does not understand what a contract or vow means. Dogs chase cars but they don't know what to do when they catch one! He has cheated in the past and you forgave him. Once might be allowable depending on circumstances, age and degree of remorse. but if you forgave him more than once, then YOU gave him permission to be a hound. When you love a person, you don't hurt them. Your husband does not LOVE you, he OWNS you like a possession and is probably laughing about you to all the lowlifes he meets in bars. Look in the mirror and tell the woman that you see that she is worthy of more than this crap. Then when he's out during the day, call a locksmith, change the locks on the doors. Pack a bag for him and have UPS deliver it to his office with a note that gives him the address and phone number of your lawyer. Don't answer his calls. Don't let him in the door. He's a dog so let him go bury his bone elsewhere - somewhere in the dirt where he's been digging anyway! Sweetie, only about 20% of men are cheaters but they do so much damage to women it seems like far more. It's the same dogs peeing on many poles. There are so many good guys out there who will treat you right!

Answer 4

He's not a MAN he's a selfish BOY. No MAN feels that way because a MAN is concerned about the consequence (children) of his actions. I real MAN doesn't want to take any chances knocking up a bimbo (although some real men have been known to fail when they don't get any at home).

Get your language right. Now a selfish BOY don't care about what problems he actions causes. So you're married to a BOY not a MAN. A BOY should never get sex because if you give a boy sex he will never grow up. Hence look at the mess your in.

Sorry,

Answer 5

No i do not feel this is possible at all. If someone really loves you they love just you and not other people and they definitley would not want to hurt you by being with other people or women. No not all men feel this way. My husband loves me and would never do this to me and i would never do this to him either. Why dont you ask your husband how he would feel if you want to sleep with other men and if he would feel that you still love him if you do this. How would this make him feel? Tell him to put himself in your shoes for once and how would he want you to treat him and your marriage. This just make him think. I also recommend that you both try marriage counseling if at all possible.

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Answer 6

The only help you need is help getting out of that relationship before you are stuck with him by having kids. He has some nerve but you have to have a missing brain to go along with that nonsense. Let him sleep with all the other women he wants. You deserve better but you are not gonna get it as long as you let this man walk all over you and disrespect you. It is not gonna get better so why wait it out.

Answer 7

No, he's just telling you that to keep you around. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. I want to know WHY ARE YOU LETTING HIM? Why are you still with a man you know has cheated on you? Men may have fantasies of other women but if they love you they will be faithful to only you. Kick his sorry @ss to the curb or just stay there and keep being his fool.

Answer 8

Imagine if you slept around, do you think your husband would care. If he loves you the answer is that he should care and be upset about such behaviour. He should not feel the need for anyone else if he's in love with you. He is not all men but part of an awful minority.

Answer 9

The way I see it is unfortunate, but true...these days sex and love really dont relate....you dont have to love someone to have sex with them...you really dont even have to know them....I guess what I am trying to say is that it does not mean he doesnt love you........but the thing is, if he loves you and he knows that it hurts you....then he should not do it. He can want to all he wants and still love you, but the moment he does it then thats when he crosses the line. When you love someone you sacrifice everything for them...no matter what.

Answer 10

yeah, i love my wife and want to sleep with other women but i dont cause i know if she ever found out...the past 7 years would've been a waste of my life. It would be terrible, you shouldnt have forgiven him the first time.

ATTENTION WOMEN: if your man cheats once and you forgive him he'll do it again, i know plenty of men who have done this. Personally, i dont blame them for cheating cause they're gettin away with it.