my girl friend of 8 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She has things to figure out for herself and says she is taking every day as it comes. There is no-one else for either of us at the moment. We were best friends and have been since we were 17. I miss her so much and would love to have her back but i know i cannot force her to love me enough to get back with me. There were no real problems in our relationship, she says i am a fantastic guy but its all her. We have only spoke once since and that was about what we are doing with our house. We still exchanged "i love you's" at the end of the conversation. She knows how I feel and knows I want her back but i have decided to just leave her and hope that time apart makes her want to come back to me. Is it best to just let her go and hope or should i fight for her and risk pushing her further away?
2007-02-15 10:46:50 · 12 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont fight. You need to take a break from the situation to truly evaluate the situation. Please don't fight, trust me on this. You have done enough. Don't threaten her about the house. If you love her, just give her the time to figure things out. She is confused right now, and the man she loves will maintain his composure and not threaten her or make her feel guilty by being so desperate. Just wish her a good three months or whatever it is and avoid contact so she can really think. You need to be strong for yourself. You want to show you care, trust me she knows you care, but she needs to figure out how much it is she cares. Believe you did everything you could. Ask yourself this, what more could you really do. Talk her ear off, buy her stuff she does not deserve? What can you honestly do to change her mind? Ask yourself that. This is time for yourself to figure things out and you might realize you don't want to be with someone that put you through this hell. For now you know you will have your answer in time and what you need to do is focus on yourself. Go out with the fellas, do whatever it is you wanted to do, rediscover yourself, make yourself better, and never regress. Focus on yourself. I know it's damn hard and you feel like its slipping away, but have confidence in your 8 years. People change, and you need to change for the better with focus on YOURSELF. Dont ever lose your self worth.
2007-02-15 11:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you should let her go and if she is the right one for you she will return to you someday and want to be with you again. You can push her away if you push or pressure her too hard. They say if you love someone you let them go. The best thing you can do for the person. You cannot make someone love you and want to be with you. They have to choose to love you and want to be with you. This is a choice of the heart. Who knows maybe she is not the right one for you but there may be someone else out there who is. Give it some time and find out . I wish you the best and here comes lots of hugs for you today.
2007-02-15 18:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend for 8-years. And was she foolishly giving you sex for free? Good for her, finally growing up about 8-years to late. Leve her alone tell her to go find a real man and not come back to you. Boy's shouldn't get sex only MEN. A MAN don't use women but after 8-years with no commitment you were.
2007-02-15 19:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it that passing off the blame is always from the person who got left and they never mention the sex? Dude you are probably a bum lay and she needs a real man! She won't be back when she tastes the real deal. Might as well get a job and quit thinking that someday you'll be making enough money to make her an honest woman.
2007-02-15 19:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She isn't yours to let go of. Honestly when someone says "it's just me" without explanation, it usually means either they've fallen out of love and/or they've found someone new.
If you had been the one to break up w her then I could see you pursuing her. But she broke up with you. Leave her to her space. After 8 years, if she doesn't contact you after a little bit, it's time to give your r-ship funeral rites.
2007-02-15 18:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by acrobatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in contact with her and just offer to be her friend and let her know you are there if she needs someone she can talk to. Get on with your own life and hopefully one day she might know what she's missing and come back to you. Good luck
2007-02-15 19:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she hasn't discovered what she's going to be missing if you keep hanging around, proclaiming your love, expressing your emotions and being her best friend. I say cut her loose, cut contact, and let her see what it feels like to really live without you. Don't talk to her for 3-5 months. Stop being there.
2007-02-15 19:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through what your going through at the moment, try to keep none or minimal contact with her, and go on with your life as best you can without her, if she decides that she wants you back then she will contact you in due time...
I believe that if its meant to be, fate will bring you two back together...
2007-02-15 19:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about calling for like a month or three.
it's almost impossible to do that, but it won't help your case if you do it.
And you might find it easier to get over her when it goes that way most likely. It's probably over, but begging will just push her away faster.
2007-02-15 18:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer , and are doing the right thing. I am sorry this has happened to you and I wish you best of Luck.
2007-02-15 19:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by H. D. Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋