Okay well, I'm not sure what to do?
I really want to marry my boyfriend that I am with right know.
We have been together for a year and we have a beautiful baby girl.
I was wondering if men are the ones to ask if they want to get married or should I do it?
Like would it be weird if I did it, Or is it the men that do it?
I also don't have a ring =( ( getting one very soon, I just want to ask him now!!!)
Should I still ask or should I wait?
And be enganged for like around say 2-3 years and get married?
Any suggestions
2007-02-15 10:35:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he asked me to have a child..
and second .. he keeps telling me he wants to marry me,
and the murses at the hospital when i was taking care of my baby and talking to them i overhear them say when i left i am more mature than most adults..
thank you very much!
2007-02-15 10:54:03 · update #1
he asked me to have a child..
and second .. he keeps telling me he wants to marry me,
and the murses at the hospital when i was taking care of my baby and talking to them i overhear them say when i left i am more mature than most adults..
thank you very much!
2007-02-15 10:54:33 · update #2
That question can only be answered by you reviewing your values and deciding what you want. It certainly has become more common to see women proposing to men these days and engagements can last a while, even several years, before the marriage. However, it is up to you to do what makes you happy. Good luck.
2007-02-15 10:41:28 · answer #1 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad it is too late to tell you to take birth control because you are too immature to have babies!! Gads - you are shacked up with a guy and you have made a baby and you haven't even discussed a future together. If you have a child, you should be TALKING more and screwing less!! Sit down with him and ask him when he thinks a good day would be to get married. If he looks shocked , don't be surprised because he's got everything he wants right now. If he mumbles something about "I dunno, maybe in a few years"... then wake up and smell the coffee. He's not ready to commit to you, he just got caught with the pregnancy and you're too dumb to realize it. When you moved in together or starting sleeping together , it should have been under the premise that you had a commitment, were getting married in 5 or 6 months, etc. This is just one more example of stupid kids with no guidance, no values and no future. God help your child!!
2007-02-15 18:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asking him is fine. But, I can't understand why you'd want a years long engagement, since you already have a family. Why wait? If you are going to marry, marry. A ring isn't necessary, after all, you didn't bother with a ring before having children, so why bother now?
2007-02-15 18:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can ask your boyfriend if you want to....but I'm a very traditional girl so i don´t think i would have asked my husband.
Being engaged let you know more the other person but there are no rules about how long it must be. If you think you know him already, you don't have to wait much.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 18:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
careful you might alienate him and force his hand away from you and the last thing you need being a young mom is to have to go out and start looking for a guy who might be willing to consider dating a woman with a kid let alone get serious and then even rarer would be to find a guy interested in a prefab family...... Wait for him to get it together and don't ever stop pleasing him in every way and get the hell back on the pill. last thing in this life right now would be a second baby.......
2007-02-15 18:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do it! Lol, I say go for it! If you really want that. Pink asked her husband to marry her....That would be cool, I think. He will be flattered! Good luck, get a ring first though! haha.
2007-02-15 18:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy....... If being married will bring smiles to your face, and your life is going to be more productive than now, I say go for it.
2007-02-15 18:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
If you really love the guy and will like to propose to him, it is quiet romantic to do such a thing .but you should be ready to finance the marriage on your own if he is broke,and have what you really desire The Ring.goodluck.
2007-02-15 18:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by ebiyedinak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋