In regards to sexual orientation (gay or straight), we can't choose who we are attracted to or how we feel. We can't tell ourselves, "No, you are not going to be attracted to that person!" We just are. The term "choice" refers to our choice to act on our feelings towards someone. Everyone chooses their actions, but no one can choose their feelings.
2007-02-15 10:32:03 · 9 answers · asked by Hmmm... 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2007-02-15 10:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very well said. I often ask a "homophobe" "What makes you drawn to the opposite sex?" The person invariably responds with a vague, waffled answer like "Because it's natural" LOL which immediately demands the reqest - so now define "natural". The answer to that is likely to be an equally vague and meaningless....."Something that's normal... something that is meant to be"
The reality is that people who are drawn to the opposite sex, are not making a conscious decision (choice) to be attracted to the opposite sex. They just know that they are. If this happens as a result of an automatic inner urge, with absolutely no decision involved about doing so... why in the world would they think for a moment that the opposite is true for those drawn to members of their own sex?
I could get into a long rigmarole about the effects of body hormones on our urges and inclinations, but I doubt if it would open the minds of the closed-minded. I am content in the certainty, that just as a time came when the majority of people finally gave up on insisting that the earth was flat - or that our planet was the center of the universe - or any of the hundreds of other dopey convictions they held out of sheer ignorance, a time is surely coming when homosexuality will be fully (even if sometimes grudgingly) acknowledged as something that is simply a factor in the makeup of some people who are, in every other way, just exactly as human as the rest of us, with not one shred more propensity for "badness" than their heterosexual counterparts.
Over and above all of this remains that one most mystifying of all questions........ Who in his right mind could actually believe that anybody on the planet would deliberately subject himself to the anger, the hatred, the visciousness, the boiling aggression that is directed towards those who just want to stop living a lie, and be accepted for who they are in all the areas of humanity that really matter, and not just because of their sexual orientation? If it were a matter of "choice" it's nothing short of lunacy to think that anybody would choose to subject himself to all of the blind, vitriolic hatefulness spewed at them by those who seemingly think their own character and life history are shining examples of righteousness and perfection.
2007-02-15 12:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. My best friend, whom I call my big sissy, is a lesbian and I also have an aunt who is a lesbian. I can't understand why people say that you have a choice. Who would make a choice to be something that people say is unreal? Who would make a choice to be a lesbian or a gay man if you are going to be put down and pushed aside in life? I know that all of the gays/lesbians that I have met are great people and it doesn't matter what their sexual orientation is.
I really get sad when, say a lesbian comes into the room, all of the girls in that room think she will hit on them. Well, ya know, it is just like any normal person...I don't like every single guy in a room I walk into, unless something weird happens and all the cute guys get bunched into one room and I walk in. Well, hope I help you educate others.
2007-02-15 10:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ali 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No,I am positive with my sexual orintation of being straight. I believe I was born to be that way & that it will show my respect for God a whole lot more. Afterall, even if you believe in God or not..you should be thankful for how you were made & for having life..and everyone having different looks & personalities. Otherwise,this world would be very boring, and not very exciting or enjoyable. Hope this helped, good luck-
2007-02-15 10:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People choose how they feel all of the time. People are always deciding what matters to them at any given moment. That's why they will fall in and out of love, why they'll hate to eat a certain food one day and then enjoy it sometime later, why they'll be strongly for or against something and then, as things change in their lives, will sway in their feelings in such matters.
We decide, consciously or not and all throughout our lives, how we feel about everything. We choose who we are attracted to because we choose what matters to us. And if the person doesn't have those qualities that we have chosen to acknowledge as being desirable to us, then we won't be attracted to them.
People who say otherwise are just trying to create an excuse and justification for doing as they please about certain things, thus claiming them to be beyond their control.
If you're going to adhere by what you're saying, that people can't help the way that they feel, then why do you think you saying anything is going to matter to those who feel otherwise? After all, according to you, they can't help how they feel nor can they change it. If someone feels disgusted by homosexuals, then believing as you do, why should anything you say change it?
Obviously you don't believe it when it comes right down to it. And trying to cloud something in ignorance and mystery by saying "That's just the way it is" is simply lending cause to excuse it.
Additional: And the person below me who thinks that no one would willing choose to do something that would place them in a hostile situation concerning others, then how you explain Emos, people who stay in abusive relationships, people who start smoking, illegal immigrants, most criminals, and so on. By your account all of these people are either lunatics or born that way. Looks like society and the legal system needs to do a lot of rethinking.
2007-02-15 10:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's funny, when people say: those who act on their homosexual chemistry are not accepted in God's eyes,and will go to hell. But, then they go on to say because of their of their heterosexual chemistry they are OK to act on it and still be loved by God, when the bible (word of God) forbids sex before marriage.
Am I to believes all these people who tell homosexuals that they are going to hell are virgins or remained virgins until they were married?
God doesn't like hypocrites.
2007-02-15 10:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't choose to be attracted to chocolate, shrimp, or cherry pie, but I am. Now I hate canned peas but if a friend likes them, I don't ridicule them. There is room for us both. Like what appeals to you and accept difference in others.
2007-02-15 10:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you 100%. Bigots and hypocrites use the term "choice" to suit their own needs and don't really understand the way it is used. But you are always gonna have those people.
2007-02-15 10:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can also choose not to follow your feelings. If we all did this intelligently, the world would be a better place.
2007-02-15 10:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by americanmalearlington 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋