Me and my fiance broke up a little over 2 weeks ago...He didn't call for about a week..We he did but it was short and sweet. Now, since last week, He calls ALL the time and I just hardly answer. I'm pregnant so I do update him with Dr. visits. Well he calls me yesterday to tell me Happy V-day. He is living out of state right now. I just don't understand why he would even call??????!
2007-02-15 10:26:47 · 10 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He broke up with me...Because he said we "can't" work out.
2007-02-15 10:34:26 · update #1
Yeah and our relationship was 7 years...I have another ? that I posted if you want to go read the full detail of what happened..Thanks guys!
2007-02-15 10:38:20 · update #2
Why did you break up? We need to know this? Doesn't sound as if you want him? or just discouraged and heartbroken .You update him about the doctor so it must be his baby.? Sounds like a unexpected pregnancy. That can scare a guy off. that's okay They need time to think as we do to.Having a baby raises lots of questions. For you and Him. Sometimes they think its a trap? or maybe he really realizes he should care.? and wants to .You say he lives out of the state? is it for another woman? work school what? He may realize He has burdened you with his child and wants to step up to the plate for the child Please let him. For the baby..
You are so frustrated I feel you.heartbroken lost..What is it you want? Figure this out. I really want to help. Add more info and I will add too. or mail me . You do have many options. It can still work Lets talk
TO CONTINUE .......
Thanks for the update. Looks as if it is moving so fast for him. He has to make money. work pay bills . and now a baby. You are still young and learning of what a realtionship is. You said you fight alot. Do you have the communicaton. Are you honest truthful and patient. Im sure you are. I would say this sounds unexpected. Although you have been together for many years. Engaged for the baby i suppose. Was he obgilated ? did you bug him for marriage? Love is never rude or boastful never selfish. Love can't hold grudges. You both have to want it for it to work.
My cousin just had his first child. Very similar feelings happened for him. HE felt pressured forced. Told he should be married to her .and take care of his responsibilities. By many in the familly. You dont have to be married to have a baby.... My cousin didn't want anyone to know about the baby. My Grandparents so dissapointed he wouldnt share this with them. They dont judge they love to know a wonderful grand child is coming into this world. And now they are .G.Grandparents. My cousin didnt speak to his girlfriend for most of the pregnancy. Before the baby they did fight alot. He was in it for convienance,for him im not sure it was love.Im not sure but will find out. .He just couldnt face and see the reality he caused. He was gonna be a dad. He knew of appoitments and went to some. Is now The HAPPIEST DAD I EVER SAW. smile from ear to ear. i get goosebumps to say it. I will find a picture and send it to you. When he saw that baby boy.. his heart melted. Your fiance knows you need him. Hes letting you know he cares.by calling. You need to sit back and see what happens. Let him come for appointments if he likes. Share that the baby moves.let him feel the baby kick.( my cousin would not do this) He is scared of the commitment he has created. My cousin has now moved out of home. And is with his girl and child born 3 weeks ago . If you want to try and make this work.He is not getting married like his brother did also a similar situation.( a few too many here but all good endings so far) Dont pressure but talk and tell your fiancee you want to work on things. You want a house YOU DONT NEED IT .... You want a marriage YOU DONT HAVE TO BE MARRIED. Let your man know you are willing to talk no strings attached. Too many hormoans involved now. The stress it puts on you and him is way too great. FOCUS ON THE BABY Dont judge him Dont be crewl or selfish. JUST THE BABY I really think he will come around thats why he called. He loves you... hes just really stressed.... needs some space.. we all do now and then. Slow and easy. And no you don't have to beg. Let it happen.. When he sees you dont pressure him and want so much I really do think he will come to his senses. I really hope this is helping Feel free to tell me more.If i think of something else I will add ok.I hope im getting the right impressions of your feelings ttyl
OKAY SORRY SO LONG one very important thing i have learned when I was young.. It saved my realtionship
I want to add something else about relationships. many of my younger friends including myself when younger Do unintentionally require lots of extra attention. I have help some now older and able to understand. We want our men to want to be with us all the time. We want to know where they are and what they are doing....whos on the phone .. etc..This makes men think we are nags bugging them. Don't do this.. Makes things worse... men dont always feel the way we do . we tend expect gifts , notes and for holidays to be remembered. These this thoughtful yes but insignificant. They dont matter. When they do give something its because they truly wanted to. From their HEART. What really matters is that he holds you at night. says your beautiful, wonderful ,fun, and charming. Remind him of the old you. The person fun and happy. Forget his wrongs work on the good. THat Valentine call was something special..You might want to just call him up and say thanks for thinking of you and the baby. Sorry for uloading all your troubles on him.. Tell him you want to go slow see what happens..... and say thanks just wanted you to know okay bye. Dont babble don't elaborate. Keep it so simple. let him think on that. He will call back.. If you can't say it to him. Leave it on a voicemail or text message. He will call.. or say something the next time you talk to him about the baby....thats coming really fast. It can still work out. Men dont like to be bugged I and my friends all did this same thing..(maybe i am wrong and you didn't) if so it want intentional. Its part of who we are..We must over come these things. learn and grow. he must too.. Open your heart to him if you dare... worst thing that could happen is it wont work out ( like now) The other is finding the love of your life....Happiness Joy smile now I wish this for you... AM i right? i wonder this. let me know. Maybe i have a different idea i can share. I want this for you and the baby. bye spell chek not workin hope all is okay...
2007-02-15 10:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...first of all you are having his child and that makes a bond between the two of you whether you broke up or not. Perhaps he realizes he made a mistake...and is trying to find a way to talk to you about it...or become more a part of your life now. Maybe he just does not know how to go about it so Valentines Day was a good excuse. If it was totally over...he would NOT have called you in the first place. Now...you have to decide if you want him back into your life...and if you do...then just come out and ask him. It is better to know than trying to guess what is on his mind and why he is doing thing.
2007-02-15 18:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses you and probably wants to reconcile, afterall you are carrying his child. If it is completly over let him know not to call, and that you will update him with the dr visits, but if it is not completly over than you guys need to talk and plan for what you are going to do when this baby comes in to this world
2007-02-15 18:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by joker:P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either regret that you broke up--- or just common courtesy for the mother of his child. Don't read too much into it. You guys broke up for a reason. Have those reasons changed? If they haven't, keep doing what you're doing, updates on the child only.
2007-02-15 18:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he still cares about you. Why don't you get back together with him? You're having his kid out of wedlock after all.
"Can't work out?!" What a jerk. He's just too lazy to make it work. Find your baby a REAL father.
2007-02-15 18:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably still wants to have a relationship with you, and you are pregnant with him. dont block him out of your entire life. let him in he is the father of that comming child. well mayb he is still in love with you and wants to share that vday thought.
2007-02-15 18:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by xkathiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be flattered that he called rather than be confused about it. It's a kind gesture and it's a special day for love.
2007-02-15 18:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he loves you and cares about you try to give it a second thought. Good luck wish you all the best
2007-02-15 18:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are carrying his child.
2007-02-15 18:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he still cares! he probably wants to be back with you!
2007-02-15 18:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋