often severe ones and often several times a day. Suicidal every day for 15 years fighting this ideation which apparently caused by antidepressants because day I stopped these drugs never suicidal again despite problems..now less problems but still a lot no support at all continual rejection from everyone..no friends--familty too busy ior too mean or apathetic..told by hundreds I am sweet and nice and heart of gold, I am wondering why my life is so bad. Can someone tell me why.. had most horrible week..funeral favorite aunt. overheard two relatives saying something really mean and inconsiderate behind my back that really upset me that day /day full of embarassment and humiliation and pain and cruelty at hands of other relatives..Also very embarrassing event that lead to much gossip in extended family. Told sister in law trying to start trouble about me same day all this happened..brother told me to really mean things said about me by another sister and another brother that really
2007-02-15 10:21:45 · 6 answers · asked by janie 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
upset him and his wife and was so mean to me they got upset mother treated me like dirt--really bad and never takes my side--always them over me..car problems two days in a row..secretary at doctors office just yelled at me when wouldn't start and had to cancel appt late for she was real rude (cold weather problem fixed last night today same thing) several other things etc just continual problems full of negative feelings overwhelmed, angry, hurt, no sleep day of problems for 2 days talked to suicide prevention 4 times (8 hours) not suicidal now just upset..anyway..I am sick of rejection and abuse and want to cut off contact with these mean relatives
2007-02-15 10:21:56 · update #1
..feel guilty about that but they won't care if they don't see me as they never initiate contact or talk to me (except behind my back or minimally) when I do see them. I have tried to be so kind to others and I rarely receive (not that that is why I do it) but why can't a run into people as nurturing as me or find friends. Essentially I want to be more self nurturing and bring some good things in my life. Not working disabled..how can I make more supportive friends or motivate myself to volunteer and become more schedulized doing good things for my health as I am so disorganized. I am sick of this rut and want to feel better. Please offer (kind) suggestions as I need help (oh am in counseling but it doesn't help much).. I want to get rid of bad negative thoughts and be happier. Please advise..don't give short answers as I need more than that..if possible..please reach out to someone in real need today.
2007-02-15 10:23:52 · update #2
I am just absolutely sad and overwhelmed and utterly alone I will be grateful for help on how to better nurture and love self, overcome a life of problems and rejection and turn a naturally disorganized and unaware of time temperament to do things like eat better, take supplements, improve surroundings etc. {Please address some of these issues and advise in depth if you can..I know this is long and involves some giving to answer but you will really be doing a good deed if you knew how awful I feel.
2007-02-15 10:24:01 · update #3
Bud beautiful and helpful answer..thank you so much
2007-02-15 10:50:17 · update #4
pretty I do have high self esteem and am not overcome by feelings of worthlessness
2007-02-15 10:51:13 · update #5
you are right sbout overwhelmed with sadness/anger/worry so very right. The water suggestion was good anfd I am glad things are getting better for you and appriaciate your advice.
2007-02-15 10:53:23 · update #6
Hello there!
Last night I saw a movie and heard an interesting quote..."Life is orange"...you might wonder what it is....but when that guy asked that guy that he was talking...he said...I have no idea what that means...his grandfather told him that qoute..."Life is orange".
After that I was trying to find out the meaning of that thought...but I couldn't...and after one day I realised that this word is very meaningful...cuz you can't define life as an orange...and from that I realised that you can't define life either.
Life it is isn't suppose to be meaningful. don't try to find the meaning of life...the meaning of the behaviour of people that make you angry and sad, don't try to find the meaning why this is happening to you. You just can't explain it.
Instead try to do something more practical...than analyzing and getting in depresssion.
I will use two words which might change your life for good...if you know how to find out the meaning....
BE PRESENT!
Yes be present in every single situation...for a change don't think about how desperate you are...but try to think of that moment that you are living without thinking too much...enjoy every single moment...do something...yes you must act...if you want to change your life.
And don't forget life is an orange...and don't try to analyze why is that.
Just live every second of your life without thinking too much.
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-15 11:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life can be overwhelming at times, and some have it more than others. You need to make a list of things to do and do them step by step never thinking whether or not you feel like doing them. You need to set specific goals for your life and strive to attain them. Get an attitude of caring only what God wants of you rather than what people think of you. Go to the library and see if they have some books by Stormie Omartian (Just Enough Ligft for the Step I'm On), Max Lucado (any of them), or Harold Kushner (Overcoming Life's Disappointments).
Go to a small church and start studying God's Word. Make yourself go regularly. Try going to a church where you don't know anyone and they don't know you. Don't tell anyone that you have problems; don't tell them anything about you. Just greet people with a smile and learn their names. All they need to know is that you are a student and want to learn. Find a little country church with a very small congregation that will love having you join them. They are everywhere if you just look for them. Churches that are dying out because most people go to the big city churches.
Eleanor Roosevelt said "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." That is so true. Let others talk all they want to but don't let any of it get you upset. Just smile and know that you are a child of God and He loves you and that is all that matters.
Become friends with the library and good books and good music. There is a good world for you; you just will be surprised when you find it. Have faith.
2007-02-15 10:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bud B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I know where you are coming from...I have suffered from anxiety and depression since I was a child. I have just recently begun taking medication for both depression and anxiety. In all honesty it appears like you are in an agitated depressive state. What that means is that you are depressed and sad but it is coupled with anger and worry. It seems like you are caught up in an obsessive feeling of worthlessness and no one can make you feel worthy except God and yourself. I don't know if you believe in God but God gave us the ability to look at ourselves with forgiveness. He understands we are human and loves us as is.
More practical ways to deal with your issues are to take care of yourself by doing something nice for yourself, whatever makes you smile and happy. Don't listen to the family members. I have dealt with negative family all of my life and am now getting to the place in my life where I assign them a figurative place in my life and put them in the places where they belong and bring them down when they are appropriate again.
You should be cleansing yourself by drinking only water and alot of it. No sugars or sodas or junk that only causes your sugar level to drop suddenly after the high and make you more depressive. Also keep yourself around positive people, books, music and television. Whichever you use for distraction.
I have been where you are at for almost 28 of the years I have been born. Some years it was worse, but I am doing well now. I am engaged to an understanding and patient man, I have a great job and am currently on medication to help me maintain my anxiety which helps me day to day. Don't get me wrong...I still struggle. Just earlier I was thinking to my self "why am I alive...Who would miss me if I was gone?" I still go there, but I have learned the art of distraction and positive talk and redirection. I wish you well. Hang in there.
2007-02-15 10:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by prettybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something that can potentialy make you feel great is working out. It allows you to let out so much anger and blow off some steam, while making you healthier. After you work out you will feel like you got some stuff off of your chest, as well as feel great about your body. Also, if you go to a gym to workout, you might meet some great people that are willing to help you improve your physical health, and can turn out to be great friends. You said yourself that you need to change your surroundings. So it only makes sense to spend a couple of hours a day in a gym.
2007-02-15 10:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by happyfarah88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, and I won't lie to you, it may or may not get better. But what is important is that you try to hold on, do not give up no matter how much you want to. Just because life is full of nothing but pain, does not mean death would be better. You sound as if you need someone to talk to. With that you should feel better.
2007-02-15 10:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, i just don't have the attention span to read all that. Love life!
2007-02-15 10:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by joe_abraham_swanson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋