My bf and I have a wonderful realtionship, but his mom and his bro. does not approve. they expected our relationship to last two mos. Well it's been 15 mos and it keeps getting better an better, That fact that its getting better & better, burns them up too pieces. me and my bf thought that this negative, jealousy, and bitter attitude of thiers would change once they see how happy we are. His mom an bro. her so miserable, they call all the time harassing my bf. about why he love me so much, his mom states that your gf is never welcome in my home, because you cater to her and you dont to me. His mom has been single for eleven years, his bro. is homeless, and treat my great boyfriend like he is his dad. My bf states that they have always been this way, and had ran plenty of his x-girlfriends away. my boyfriend has talk and talked to them, but they refuse to listen, he's ready to walk away from them. and im ready to walk away from "him" what should I or we do?
2007-02-15 10:18:08 · 5 answers · asked by dtj22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
put on the boots and walk away from these jealous leeches. They are miserable and they want him and you to be misreable too. They are never gonna change so if you two want to be together you need to walk. They are only gonna drag him down and try to stop everything he wants to do so he needs to grow a spine, get some shielding for his heart and hit the road that leads to a nice life and away from those unhappy people, family or not. they are not acting like family they are not treating him like family should so he owns them nothing more. I wish you two luck and a very happy life together, and do not ever look back.
2007-02-15 10:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let them get to you. You need to think about how much this relationship means to you, and if it means as much to you as I think it does, you are much better off focusing on building it. The surest way to do that would be to allow him to walk away from them. This need not be a long separation, but is necessary for the continued success of the relationship. Right now, these people who are supposed to be his family are pulling down his relationship, and so he needs to put some distance between them and himself. You need to continue to be supportive of him. You and him have had a great thing going and still do, don't jeopardize it because of two haters.
2007-02-15 18:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by biologyqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to, walk away from them do it. Been there done that. Take control of your lives.
Do it before you have children and she starts on them.
If you are in love as you say.
1. move and leave no forwarding address or phone number.
you can only be harassed if you want to be.
2. make it clear to others if they give out your personal information or try to plat go between they are out too.
3. Don't go back for more. These people only want to control you.
2007-02-15 18:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by andreamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a very dysfunctional family. If the two of you love each other, then stand by your man, don't walk away from him. Cut off communications with his mom and brother and live your lives to the fullest. She sounds jealous to me and probably aids that brother to instigate problems your way too. They need to get a life and leave the two of you to your happiness.
2007-02-15 18:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family is just jealous of his happiness. His mother is just bitter that no one loves her, and i can see why. Don't let their jealously bring you guys down. That's what they want to happen.
It's a shame that that is something your boyfriend needs to deal with. if you love him, stay with him. You could be the one to make change his life and make it better. Don't give up on him. Who cares what his family thinks. They don't understand what love is.
2007-02-15 18:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Love <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋