My sister has kids but my father doesn't visit them, he lives in the same town or see them during the holidays. He also won't take them anywhere or really help my sister out when she is in need. I think his behavior is rude and self centered.
2007-02-15 10:16:19 · 10 answers · asked by Simone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In general he just ignores the kids. Its not that I want him to be the sitter but I would think a grandfather would want to see his grandchildren
2007-02-15 10:21:19 · update #1
He is interested in his girlfriends children and can tell me everything about them but growing up he didn't have alot to do with us.
2007-02-15 10:52:30 · update #2
I think so too.
2007-02-15 10:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by trinity082482 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad doesn't want anything to do with my kids either. He hasn't seen them in about 3 years since I got remarried. In fact, he has never met my 2 year old son (he said he only knows 1/2 of him because he has never met my new husband and that hurt). Whenever I tried to visit he would tell me he is busy. I decided not to take it personally (that whole side of the family is weird anyway) and as time goes on it doesn't hurt as much anymore. I feel it is his loss. I hope this isnt how it is for your sister. I hope she can worm his way into his heart and be a family again somehow. That is too sad.
2007-02-15 18:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad situation. I think it is very unfortunate that he does not want to be part of his own grandchildren's life. Was he a good father to you and your sister? If not then this is probley a cycle that he does not want to change. I am very sorry for the children involved but if he is like this then they are better off without him. I know that it is a hard fact but it is the truth.
2007-02-15 18:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look - as bad as it sounds....you don't need him. Do the children have other grandparents? I only had 1 grandmother in my life. You can't MAKE a grown man do anything. And as heat-breaking as it is that he doesn't want to attend to his own grandchildren - you can't make him. I have a problem with my father - he loves them, but hasn't come to visit in almost 4 years. He writes the kids and sends them gifts, but won't come see us. I don't need him though and I have come to realize that nothing I say will change that. I have accepted his choice and in the end - he is missing out on knowing them.
2007-02-18 16:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most grandfathers would want to spend time with the grandkids. Maybe being around them makes him feel old. Some people just can't accept the fact that they are getting older every day. I hope he wakes up before it is too late.
2007-02-15 18:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There doesn't seem to be a question here, but I agree with you. It's unfortunate for him because he'll miss out on his grandchildren's childhood. It's tough for the kids because they think it's their fault that he doesn't like them. It's a lose-lose situation. Hope he grows up before it's too late.
2007-02-15 18:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how can ya not want to be a grandpa??? i had my first grandson 7 months ago and i can't love or see that kid enough. maybe your dad is just emotionaly dead. he will be sorry later on.
2007-02-15 18:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by thelovebuzzard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not your sisters babysitter if she wants hm to spend time with her children then she should talk to him about it.
2007-02-15 18:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you think of him it is his right to do as he does. Frankly if your sister has issues with him then she should address those issues with him, not you. Your father is his own man and your sister is her own woman.
2007-02-15 18:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
he's an old grump thats all.
2007-02-15 18:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by Meow4Moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋