find someone else and leave you?
2007-02-15 10:11:56 · 26 answers · asked by City slicker 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of couse. Some days you wake up and wonder how long it would take to smother them under a pillow. And those that don't feel that way have 'usually' not been married a long time. But you get over it. Marriage has ups and downs.. Hopefully, you learn to work through the downs.
2007-02-15 10:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by moe497 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone second guesses thier relationships. In the end you have to ask yourself where this questioning is coming from. Is it because you fight a lot? Are you not having fun and communicating anymore? Did you get married without getting to know eacother enough? There are endless reasons why you feel this way and many solutions to the problem. It boils down to one thing: Do you love this person and respect your vows enough to figure out why you are not happy and try to fix it.
If you want to fix it, maybe marriage counseling would help. Or go see a counselor alone and get some tips on what the heck is REALLY happening. It is hard to see the true root of a problem when you are the one in the midst of it. Outside lenses from a professional can never hurt. Maybe all you need is a vacation to get away and have a chance to miss him.
Either way, u married this guy. There was something strong that made you take that leap, was there not? Try to remember why you married him. if that love is still there, I think trying to make it work before you leave him (or vice versa) would be the best thing. At least if it ends, you know you did your best to make it work instead of acting on a whim and leaving him or being lazy and letting a perfectly fixable issue sour further until he does leave you. I wish you the best.
2007-02-15 18:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by vada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what I used to think for years until I finally realized that I was the one who had to make that first step...well, I didn't find someone elst to leave, no, the first step was to open my mouth and finally say the words I had been thinking about for so many years, and they were, no, I am not happy with you...then we started fighting, tried to work on it, and now I have been divorced for almost a year, and I am still glad about it. Because I was unhappy, and the first step for change is to realize that only you yourself can do something about it. It is the hardest thing you'll ever do, but good things don't just happen, you have to want it and work for it!
2007-02-15 18:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. If anything (in the past) I have wished to find someone else and leave her. Breaking up is hard enough without a big double shot of jealousy mixed into that emotional cocktail.
2007-02-15 18:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Nicholas J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope i would never wish for that to happen. I love him too much and really am happy with him and my marriage to him. I would be VERY hurt if he went out and found someone else. It would crush me.
2007-02-15 18:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an unhealthy thing to feel just try to relax & talk about your needs or maybe the changes you want to make to bring in life into your couple or try couple therapy, good luck
2007-02-15 18:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by kitycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's not healthy and I would never admit it to them, but yes. Definitely. I love him, but sometimes I think it would be so much easier if he would just. . .
2007-02-15 18:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely Not!
2007-02-15 18:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes i do. but if you feel that way you should be the one to leave.
2007-02-15 18:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that way...you should leave and let your spouse get on with their life
2007-02-15 18:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋