What causes people in their 30's to still act like children?

Question

Is it similar to old people becoming chilish in old age, just at an earlier age?

But maybe they never really "grew up"?
I am refering to people , who in their 30's , should be thinking and acting like adults, are instead very childish in their thoughts and behavior. Thinking about childish , trivial things and throwing temper tantrums, if not getting their childish demands?
I am being serious here, what is the biological or phychological reason this could happen?

Answer 1

its called FUNshush it were they want to be fun and not boring old farts

Answer 2

This could be a sign of immaturity, could be caused by the envirorment they gre up in, If all adults acted childish around them than thats how the may think an adult acts. ADHD could be a problem but I don't know for sure, I think they could eventually control that after 30+ years of age. Other than that I have no idea.

Answer 3

I think a lot of people are misunderstanding your question.

I think I know what you're talking about - tantrums after or during an arguement, screaming fits like an 8 year old, throwing things around, totally losing control because they can't have their own way.

I've seen this in people in their 40's and even in their 60's.

I'm all for not acting your age but the stuff you described is just plain dysfunctional. I ride a mountain bike down sets of stairs, play video games and muck around with people nearly 20 years younger than myself. I'm 37.

Jesus said: Suffer the children to come unto me.....Unless you make yourself like these little ones, you will never enter the kingdom of Heaven.

The dysfunction seems to stem from the belief that someday their life would get better and they would feel at ease and be respected by others. They remember looking up to people of their age and hoping to turn out like them. Hoping to be happy. Believing that one day it would all be easy.

Children have those tantrums because there is something they can't have that seems to mean the world to them but they can't have it. Remember doing it when you were a kid? tantrum over not being allowed to go on the fire engine ride outside the supermarket? Tantrum over not being bought a toy you see when shopping?

In a child it's very sweet to see that a toy means so much to them. They cry with all their little heart because they can't have the bright red cuddly dog and a little part of us can't help feel for them because we remember that pain way back in our minds.

I guess that kind of behaviour seems really disturbing in an adult because they should have learned that we don't get everything we want. They should have learned before the age of 30 that getting your own way isn't the be all and end all. And sometimes the tivial can come to mean far too much to us.

There is also an increased feeling of being out of control of one's own life in the West. We seem to be having less and less say in the world, governments behave more dishonestly than ever before, refuse to be held accountable etc.

Nanny states produce toddler citizens.

When people can't control any aspect of their lives and every person and everything seems to be in the way of them getting what they want, you get the 30-something tantrum.

I think it realy comes down to the feeling that the world should not be the terrible place it is.

For those who just refuse to grow up, you've got the right idea:

mature but don't grow up.....be leave the tantrums out and calm down.

Answer 4

Poorly developed people behave this way, i.e. people who have never learnt to take responsibility for their actions. Maybe they don't have enough responsibility in their lives, and unless a dramatically life changing event occurs they will never change.

I think people are more pampered than they were and have longer youths.

Also most people take the path of least resistance, and if a "child-adult" throws a temper tantrum its easierfor normal people to give in to them and why should they change their behaviour if it gets them what they want? So the cycle continues.........phew!!

Answer 5

In my experience, people who act like this in their 20s and 30s because they have been ALLOWED to. Their parents have not instilled the need for them to work hard or take responsibility for their actions. Therefore, when they become adults, they continue to act in a way that produced results for them previously. Sad...cause there is nothing more disgusting than watching a display of immaturity in someone of that age. Of course, if she's cute...she'll continue to be rewarded for that behaviour by men.

Answer 6

People don't want to grow up, because growing up means you are going to get old and die one day and that is a terrifying prospect for a lot of people.

But I think if a person has responsibilities and a family to bring up, they need to start acting more like a responsible adult and less like a spoiled brat, otherwise it's up to the person how they want to conduct themselves.

HTH : )

Answer 7

Y'know my body hurts in places it never did before, I've had
stuff in my body repaired and removed, and I don't move near
as fast as I used to. (mentally, don't feel a day different than
when I was 18, although tempered by time and experience,
I DO act and think very much as I always did. --- I'm 63

Answer 8

I think that is may have to do with upbringing. If a person was allowed to be that way, and never taught differently, then what can you expect. Or could they maybe be uneducated. Lack of knowledge doesn't really allow for one to make the best choices. I know alot of 30,40, 50 year olds that have no common sense. I don't really have a true and correct answer for you, but if you find it, please share with me.

Answer 9

people in there 30s or 40s act like children as they have hit the growing up stage of no return and this hurts very much to a lot of people, you see we do not really want to grow up as its better staying in the child body then making desisions.
we as humans hate making desisions and the more we have to do this the worse it becomes,. acting like children takes us in that non realism which we all prfer

Answer 10

"Age aint nothing but a number". A 30 year old may feel like a 18 year old. So what. Where's the harm in it?

Answer 11

because we like to!!!!!
Its probably because you have bin in a relationship for years and have finally come to your sense's or bin dumped and feel that you are still young enough to get away with reliving some of your childhood. i think 30`s is when most people take a life check and realise your not twenty anymore and more forty and go into mass hysteria!!