I am 24 yrs old and have been married twice already first hubby i met while in college at a club where he was an ultimate fighter.I fell head over feel and eloped with him after 3 months.Problems were numerous to say the least he had never graduated from highschool and he was participating in illegal fights to make ends meet.My parent continued to pay for my college tuition but cut off all ties with me and when i graduated college i was 3 months pregnant.He became violent and in a fight with me over money broke my jaw.I divorced him and married my divorce lawyer who i thought i was in love with that marriage lasted only a year an half before i found out he was a womanizer and a con-man. It's been a year and i am now seeing a great guy my mom set me up with.But i am scared no longer want to be toughed and having issues with trust?
2007-02-15 09:49:19 · 6 answers · asked by Mercedes C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been single for a year and the guy in question is good to my 3 yr old daughter and treats me very well what wrong with me?
2007-02-15 09:53:23 · update #1
He is nothing like my ex's and has never been married he is 29 yrs old.
2007-02-15 09:57:37 · update #2
First and foremost TAKE YOUR TIME this time, no more 3months and married. Give it a year, be honest with him about your past relationships and how it's left you feeling unable to trust fully. If he's the one then he will happily wait, be patient with you and still love you. Good luck
2007-02-15 09:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is normal to be afraid of being in relationships after you have been hurt so bad in the past ones. I feel that you should take your time and heal from your past two marriages that did not work out. and seek counseling and help for how you are feeling. The first marriage partially did not last because you got married to him so fast and did not know him that well first. you need to slow things way down and start dating slowly and dont rush things. Make sure you get to know the guy first before even thinking of marrying anyone or ever settling down again. It will take you time to heal and get past things and you will need to learn to trust all over again and this is really hard after all you have been through.
2007-02-15 10:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have low self esteem and are questioning yourself. It's hard to trust after bad relationships, however, you seem knowledgeable about your past, and making mistakes regarding "love" or it's true meaning. I think it's time to let your guard down a little,let this new man in your life show that he is not either of your exes.It's normal to be scared that you don't want to be touched and not to trust,but there is a time to let go also. You are more mature now,you have learned from your past and you can go forward with that knowledge knowing you will not allow yourself to get involved in unhealthy relationships,as they will cause you and your daughter to suffer,and you don't want to suffer.....................so, believe in your mom,unless she had unhealthy relationships throughout her life, I would think she would want what is best for her daughter/grand daughter,she wouldn't put you two in harm's way on purpose. Don't move fast,just a day at a time. If the guy stays,he's worth the effort. If he leaves,you'll know that it wasn't going to work anyway. Good luck.
2007-02-15 10:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 07:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by doti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very natural to be scared considering your past with men and there is nothing wrong with you,you have a child of course you will be nervous around men and dating but you cannot live in the past you must find it in you to move on you owe it to yourself, do not rush into marriage again take your time and go slow you will have to learn to trust again and it will take time but go as slow as you need
2007-02-15 10:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this new guy that you are seeing and compare him with the others you've been with. Make sure to learn everything about his past history, such as marriages and ask him what were the problems in them. (Assuming he's been married.)
Third time's the charm?
2007-02-15 09:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by pertinential 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋