How long did you wait until after you were married, how old were you and did you own a home at the time, how much savings did you have? Was it difficult if any these things werent already done?
2007-02-15 09:36:19 · 9 answers · asked by laura n 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Its pretty much already been said, but I say that you just know when you're ready. Obviously its nice to have everything in order, but sometimes life doens't work that way. I've talked with my mom and my grandma about this and they both say that babies just happen and you "just do it." You will get by, and it may not be easy, but it will all work out. My mom said that even though she didn't really "plan" any of her 3 kids, she was always ready when they arrived. My husband and I will be married for a year in May, are in the process of looking for a house, have a pretty good savings (we both have great full time jobs), and are trying for a baby right now. But to each their own! Good luck! :)
2007-02-15 09:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by MrsN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby after I was married for one year. I was 21. We got divorced when the baby was 8 months old. It was a lot of pressure on us because we were young, did not have any savings, and lived in an apartment. We started fighting a lot, and he had to find a job that paid more money which turned out to be a night job. So, I worked days, he worked nights, child care was expensive, and the stress of it all came between us. On a happier note, I remarried a year later to a wonderful man (an older one this time) and we have been together for 5 years, married for 3 years and are planning to conceive a baby ASAP. In my opinion, and from my experience, I wouldn't recommend having a baby together until you are at least 25, done with school or well settled with a good job, and married for at least three years. A lot of marriages (even the ones like mine was where you say you'll be together forever) end within the first or second year. Whether you own a house or rent an apartment, I don't think is important when it comes to having a baby.
2007-02-15 09:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by TexasGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We conceived on our 1 year wedding anniversary - but we had lived together for 3 years before we got married. We had owned our first home for about 6 months at the time we conceived. We don't have a lot of savings, but we have been careful to plan for maternity leave, extra expenses of diapers and formula, etc.
We wish we had a larger home and we wish we had more money, but as a very wise friend once told me, "There is never the perfect time to have a baby. Everyone wishes they had more more more." And she's right. We knew we wanted to be parents and we knew we would make it work, one way or another.
2007-02-15 09:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
waited 5 months after married, i was 20, we didn't own a house yet we moved into our home when my son was 3 months old, didn't really have much in savings after buying the house, it was a little difficult getting used to the higher payment of the house and the needs of a baby but you always find a way and it worked out great.
2007-02-15 09:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by island_chick21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 7 weeks pregnant, and have been married for almost a year. We don't own a home yet, but plan to in the future. And we don't have too much savings, but enough to get by. It isn't ideal, but if you wait for your life to be "ideal", then you may never be satisfied, and may want to keep waiting.
Really, it's just personal preference/opinion on when to start a family.
2007-02-15 09:41:09 · answer #5 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19 and moved into our first home three weeks after our wedding. My husband had moderate retirement savings. I am now 21 and we are expecting our first child. Timing is different for everyone. What's right for one person may not be right for the next. Best wishes!
2007-02-15 09:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by J&A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were married for 2.5 years before our first child. I was 21 when I had him. We rented at the time b/c my husband was in the military (silly to buy) and we had enough savings for an emergency.
It worked out perfect for us.
You just need to be stable and emotionally ready.
2007-02-15 10:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i think you should wait about 1 year after your married. Don't worry about the expensives it's the life of the child or not is what you should ask.
2007-02-15 09:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by erinintn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wasn't married (yet) didn't have a house, and had no savings. it wasn't hard but it wasn't easy either, i got by.
2007-02-15 09:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋