My ex physically abused me for a long time, and then I treated him badly back, like I was really mean to him. Then he cheated on me.
2007-02-15 09:35:48 · 8 answers · asked by Jasmina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
listen when you get physically abused,you need to find help cos things will become worse eventually.you treated him badly cos you were angry.when he cheated on you,he wants you to know that he too can hurt you like you hurt him.its a vicious cycle if you both don't talk and try to resolve it.it would become ugly and your relationship will escalate to beyond repair.
2007-02-15 10:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by spunky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you and your ex had some seriuos issues between you and no real relationship. I see nothing in his character that would indicate that he was a moral person that would not cheat.
A much more serious issue I hear you saying is that he abused you. Why were you still there long enough to catch him cheating? You need couseling to find out why you would stay with an abusive man. This is the real issue. The cheating was merely a side issue of all the other problems. Please get the help you need to stay away from abusive people so that the next relationship you get into will not be a repeat of the same. You must take care of yourself first. Once you take care of yourself, then you will be ready to build on a real relationship, one built on kindness and love and caring.
2007-02-15 17:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by sistervoodoo2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex treated you badly for a long time, (domestic violence), did you leave and go back to him? If you left, that would have taken a lot of courage, and you should have stayed away from him. I would not concern myself with trying to get even with this man, and I certainly would NOT CARE if he cheated on me for ANY reason!!! You are referring to a man who has BEATEN YOU,physically and emotionally, controlled you, has power over you, taken your self-esteem and, God, I could go on with a list of statistics.........You need to get to a woman's shelter, get a protection from abuse order, Call an abuse hot line, anything to GET AWAY. I hope to God that children are not involved. This is a vicious cycle that YOU need to break. Even if you felt you were getting back at him, that will not last. You do not need to prove anything to this man,EXCEPT, that you will not remain in his control.
2007-02-15 18:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated because he's a jerk and only cares for himself. Quite honestly, he sounds like a "bad seed" But if this guy is your "ex", why is this even a discussion? Cut the strings and move on. If you bring negativity into your life, then that's what your life will be. You should surround yourself with positive people and positive things. Starting now, get rid of the negative. I'm serious! Right now!
2007-02-15 17:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of worrying about why he cheat, you need to get away from him. He probably cheated all along as most abusers are want to do. Find someone new and don't let yourself get caught up in another abusive relationship.
2007-02-15 17:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's a good thing he's your ex.
2007-02-15 17:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cheated coz he's a cheater and he will always cheat be thankful u left
2007-02-15 17:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by can u ♥ moi? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he beats you you don't need him anyway
2007-02-15 17:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋