I've gotten a few very ignorant and immature responses so I would like to start over. I am a nice person and I hold God close to my heart. I can't help the way I feel but I can help how I react and I do wonder it I am taking it as more that is should be.
yestarday was v day. My man said he got me a gift but it was at work, (mind u I didn't ask for or expect anything) but he led me to believe he got me a gift that was so nice he didn't want to risk me finding it. we had a bad snow storm yestarday so he couldn't get it.
He came home and game my a card. I wouldn't care but we've been together for 3 years and I'm pregnant with his son and suffering like hell.
I asked my mom and she said I do have a reason to be upset but to keep it to myself cause it's not that major, and it's not but looking at the situation what do u think?
I feel like yestarday he lied to my face. why wouldn't u bring a card home?
2007-02-15 09:23:26 · 13 answers · asked by lamikashi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks 4 the answers, I really didn't want to overreact, thanks for some clear thoughts guys, I think I'll tell him how I feel and let it go with that.
Thanks!
2007-02-15 09:37:38 · update #1
I lived this for years and I feel upset just reading about your disappointment. It's not a dealbreaker if you feel neglected on special occasions but it's a heart hurter for sure. If it becomes a habit, it shows disrespect and a lack of caring. I would have to let him know how I felt about it and I'd "forget" his special days too.
2007-02-15 09:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I am understanding you or not. You said he brought you a card home, then in the last sentence you said you feel like he lied to your face and said why wouldn't u bring a card home? If he was able to get out yesterday and at least bring you a card home the thought was there to show you he cares and loves you. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it because time will tell if he really did buy you a gift. If he lied about it then there is a problem you will have to deal with. In the meantime why make a fuss when he is trying to show you he loves you with a card. That's more then some people get.
2007-02-15 17:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card that has beautiful sentiments can be the most rewarding and wonderful gift a person can receive. I spend hours in a store looking for an appropriate card...its not the gift that counts, its the meaning behind the gift. A gift without a meaning to it means nothing. Read the card....what does it say.....that is the bestest gift a woman could receive on Valentines Day. If your husband loves you and has chosen a card with very deep meaning, then that is the gift you should cherish.....his love.
2007-02-15 17:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may just be the hormones and the pregnancy kicking in that is making you feel the way you do. I wasn't there, so I don't know the way he told you that he had something for you, and if it sounded like something really big and nice, but I don't think its anything to worry about. Valentines day is one of the worst holidays anyways, and i'm not saying that just because i'm single. Just try to put the matter to the back of your mind. I'm sorry you're suffering "like hell" Ibuprofen always helps. Try to think of the situation like this, a card is a hell of a lot better than nothing at all. For guys, they think they've done good to get you a card. I'm sure he loves you and didn't intentional lie to you.
2007-02-15 17:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by fantarheelsbasketball 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe for him a card is a good gift? I have 3 kids and your emotions can drive ya nuts when pregnant so maybe just have a rest and a good cry for now and then think about the important stuff...is he good to you, does he support you emotionally, do you trust him and feel respected and loved by him? If you answered yes then just wait until next year and ask him what he wants, he will then ask you the same and you can tell him exactly what you would like. Good luck and may you have a healthy,happy baby.
2007-02-15 17:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to your mom- you need to choose your battles, and this doesn't seem that important in the long run.
Yes, he was probably lying about the gift, since it was only a card...but really, it's just Valentines...a Hallmark holiday.
Try telling him that you are feeling unappreaciated in this tough time, and see if he can figure out a better way to make you happy.
2007-02-15 17:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He lied, he probably forgot and wasn't even smart enough to pick up a nice big box of chocolates or a necklace or something. My husband did a simular thing. Be upset at him, but it's not worth a breakup over.
2007-02-15 17:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married too. If my husband convinced me he got me a gift, then didn't give me one, I'd say where is it? Explain to him that you are not one of his guy buddies that he's need to give a line of crap to. It won't impress you when he talks the talk, then doesn't walk the walk. That would be called a bulls**ter!
2007-02-15 17:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he will give it to you today...you said it yourself there was snow storm so he couldn't get it... and your moms right its not that major..don't stress out about it so much.i like the answer above.."pick your battles".its not worth the fight over this one
2007-02-15 17:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby's daddy is a morone or is just teasing you.
2007-02-15 17:31:11 · answer #10 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋