why do i feel like every next girl i see is so much prettier than me?

Question

i know being confident makes your prettier than oyu actually are and all that good stuff, and it wasnt until this year that i wish i had the slightest different feature someone has like her hair or her nose or shape face. i dont think im ugly but is this common for most 13 year old girls to think ?

thanks in advance everyone these answers are really helpful. keep them coming please :]

Answer 1

Yes babe you are a victim of media idealism!

Girls are bombarded with images of beauty, the shining hair the perfect nose the best eyelashes and so it goes on. Eventually you begin to inspect and analyze how you measure up to these images.
You look at others and see one or two features they have and wish they were yours. If you continue to adopt this style of thinking then you will confirm your own worst fears " I am not pretty enough!" and down goes self concept to the bottom of the pit.

Let me say beauty is not always in the physical. It is nice like candy, but how many pretty ones are dumb mentally or an absolute *****?
You have to develop a positive outlook and learn to capitalize on those features you have that are good. Many guys fall for a girl for her overall look and personality, not because she has shiny hair or a pert nose. They may notice but not necessarily be that interested. At 13 you are still developing physically and mentally. Who knows how beautiful and attractive you will look by the time you are 16 or 18 or 20? I can recall that most girls of 13 were gawky and giggling twits even when I was the same age I preferred to be around older women for their maturity. But looking back at those girls when they reached 18 they were so much different and their inner self had been matured and was much more attractive. So don't worry just accept the way you are, dress as you want to feel good and carry yourself ( deportment) like you are the best in town and believe me you will shine brighter than any girl around you.

Cheers

Answer 2

i agree that its tiring when people say that the more confident you are the prettier. i'm 16 and sometimes i feel exactly like you do and i'm a preety confident girl. it may seem a little cliche, but i can be 100 percent sure that all those girls you think are prettier have felt the same as you do at one point. i feel the easiest way to boost self confidence and feel prettier is to hang out with friends. spend some time putting makeup and complimenting each other. it may seem weird but it actually helps. you usually end up getting a compliment you have never heard before such as you have really nice hair and you've always though your hair was horrible. if you do not feeling like being with other people, take a day and spend it alone pampering yourself. go and get your hair cut or workout. things like this usually boost your confidence. do not concern yourself thinking you are the only one who feels this way or this is unusual because it is not. trust me!

Answer 3

Welcome to the club. I think most of us have felt that way at some point. You'll eventually realize the differences between you and other girls are what make you special. I'm impressed that you made it this far without wanting to "look like" someone else and I'm very impressed that you know deep down that it isn't necessary to look like these other people to be special. As a woman the media is going to drive you crazy with the "look" of the moment -- happens at 13 -- happens at 30 -- happens at 50. Look at a picture of a fashion model 40 years old -- they look ridiculous now but were cool at the moment. You should concentrate on finding your own look that makes you feel good about yourself. Remember, you or someone else will be looking at your pictures in 40 years -- who do you want them to see?

Answer 4

Ah.. .but the pretty girl gets looked at the one next to her gets the action ;) Seriously, they may look at pretty one, but also afraid that she is out of their league.... So they go for one next nearest ;) -> a pretty girl is still going to have pretty friends -> Thats YOU !! Look, If someone is even No 2, you are still at the top if No 1 goes, you are No 1... who cares if it is 1/2/3/4 you are still at the top. Attractiveness comes from being smart, being self-confident (that is not the same as always being noticed or keeping talking, often it is keeping quiet and listening, and making one small but significant comment) believe in yourself, and know that you are smart (really you are) pretty is nothing, attractive and people happy and wanting to be with you is everything is anyone running away ?

Answer 5

Yep, that's how it goes ... sometimes, and for a while ... all part of growing pains (how patronising that sounds! forgive me, please).

Get hold of the movie Muriel's Wedding and watch the last few frames in which a conventionally attractive woman is screeching at Muriel 'I'm Beautiful!' in a way that shows that whatever her makeup artist has done, she isn't.

And I betcha that a few people are looking at you and wishing that they had some of your features - ever thought about it like that?

Lots of love.

Answer 6

I did that when I was 13 because that was when all the girls started to develop. I wanted to have boobs like her, hair like her, lips like her....Now I'm 21 and have caught up with all those girls and realize that those girls weren't so hott after all. You'll get there and you won't be jealous of them anymore.

Answer 7

Yes. Everyone at some point thinks theyre not good enough but its just not true. I always feel this but I dont put myself down. Instead I just lift my chin and smile.

Answer 8

Quite frankly, you lack confidence, pure and simple.

Answer 9

Maybe u are just ugly..

Answer 10

i agree with ocounter's answer