he;s sweet he's fabulous he's wonderful .he's a doctor but he's much older than me I'm 35 and he's 55 but we have been in love for 8 years ( i love him sooooo much )and now he wants to marry me ....would it be OK ....if we get married and have children one or two,,,is it true that thinks change after a while specially when he becomes older ..Will this kind of marriage continue ,,,i feel so confused help me please i need your advice a mature advice
2007-02-15 09:15:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have been together for 8 years and you're still both happy, what's the hold up? If it's the age difference, don't worry about it. It doesn't matter. If you both agree that children are important, have them. Go for it! Good luck!
2007-02-15 09:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you is fresh out of the schoolroom. You can make up your own mind as to whether or not you share the same values and put an equal amount of emphasis on what is important and what isn't. Marriage is about more than loving, its about living with a person who is completely different and still wanting to be with him no matter what. There is no reason to not have kids, at your age, the sooner the better unless you want tons of medical help for fertility,( he may be older, but your eggs are older than his sperm). Make sure you both want the same things and in your discussions you will have an excellent idea if you both can work things out together, or if one of you is a little too hidebound to make adjustments. As to things changing yes they do in every marriage there is the adjustment from romantic love to married love and since this is rarely spoken of people frequently think they have lost the love they have known when what they are doing is, more or less, becoming married. Its all good, its just different, less impulsive and more thoughtful in regard to the other person.
2007-02-15 09:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like anything, the "new has worn off" and you need to focus on just having a strong relationship. As time progresses you find more and more reasons why you love each other and can focus on true happiness. There are plenty of things you can do to spice up your love life which are pretty simple. I would suggest you get some books and do some reading or simply have a heart to heart talk about romance. Marriages and relationships do not fail because the newness wears off, they simply progress into a stronger state where the couple is really focused on the joy of being together. I have been married for four years
2016-05-24 04:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are u waiting for?? You have been with him 8 years already . The age difference is nothing. He makes you happy, you love him sooooooooo much do it. You need to have kids soon as you are in you 30's. My husband is 51 and our kids are grown but he still keeps up with our grandchildren just fine! And so do I. Everyone changes in some ways and it doesn't mean it is due to marriage or age. These days I see women who can't find a soul mate. Don't become a statistic when you have someone who adores you. Good Luck
2007-02-15 09:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dynamic between two people does change after they tie the knot. Marriage is a legally binding contract and that puts a new slant on things. I'm married. I love my wife dearly, but before we were married we were together because we WANTED to be; not because we're legally OBLIGATED to be so. The perspective doesn't have to change, but it may be a conscious effort to keep it that way.
At this point in both your lives, I doubt if the age issue would have any real bearing on your relationship.
2007-02-15 09:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it seems like you have the perfect happiness... what I say is life is too short to hold back and let go.. so go for it.. you are still happy after 8 years and you both want children I can't see the problem.. There is nothing to say that your marriage wont last a life time, age is purely a number... I am older than my husband and we are very happy...Whatever you decide and I hope you decide to marry him I wish you a long and happy future..
2007-02-15 09:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by linda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him, you marry him. Age is just a number. If you were 20, and he were 40, I'd say, be careful, just because at 20 we are still more like teenagers, but if you have been with him for 8 years and you are happy? Hey, you are already 'married' in a sense...you want to be with him forever? Yes, he'll become older, but so do you...
2007-02-15 09:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not clear on your question here.Are you concerned about the age difference between the both of you.Or are you concerned about the changes that happen in relationships once children come along?Which ever the question might be.My answer is still the same.If you two truly love each other.Than that is all that matters.If you love each other enough you will find a way to work out all of the other details.
2007-02-15 14:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat as you. I am 35, my fiance, a physician is 50. Doctors are an interesting breed, they work a lot and can be very demanding, but, like you, I love my Doc and will marry him next summer.
Marry and have kids. Not to late for either of you. As a future Doctors' wife I am proud to be with him and support him spiritually and mentally, (The physical part is very good too.).
Good Luck Mrs. Doctor!
2007-02-15 09:25:34 · answer #9 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it be great, if you both feel the same way, an rember age is a number,, as for as thing changeing in married , yes a little,, but married is a big step, an it take 2 to made it work, , an rember you to will change as the years pass,.. but that the best part of being married ,you both grow old together
2007-02-15 09:21:45 · answer #10 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋