do you feel as sexy & attractive as you were before baby???

Question

im 31 weeks along, and i am already so done with being preggo... all the aches & pains, i cant see my feet etc... i just want to feel sexy and attractive again...do you feel as beautiful as you felt before baby?? if you do why?? what have you done to get your self back?? If you dont what are your complaints...

Answer 1

Are you kidding? :))) Sexy after having a baby? You have no time to feel sexy and attractive! By the time you lose all your pregnancy weight, all you want to do is sleep, and your back is sore from carrying the baby, or you have had enough bodily fluids (wet diapers, drool and baby vomit) for the day and sex seems to be a messy job, and you don't want more mess, or it's something else! Even after you get used to it and get into a routine - when the baby is asleep, there is always sorting laundry, cooking and cleaning and other stuff that you can't get done while the baby is awake. But mainly, you're too tired to even want to be sexy!

If you're lucky, you won't get stretchmarks for life, but you will have a hanging wrinkled belly or a c-section scar for a long time. Unless you hire a babysitter and go get manicure and pedicure and have massages all day long, I doubt you will have a chance to feel sexy for a while! Sorry, but that's motherhood, and it's worth it! Personally, I wouldn't change a thing about it!

Answer 2

Not really. On an everyday basis, I have to say no. Ijust fon't really have the time to put on make-up and have fancy hair. Nor am as thin as I was before baby. (it has been 5 years) But when I do get to do my hair and make-up, or get my hair done, and sometimes nails-then I feel good for a few days. I also buy new clothes a few times a year (nothing big, just maybe an outfit or 2 at a time) and when I get to wear that I feel good. My husband doesnt make me feel any less attractive. He compliments me every day and tells me how much he loves me and says I am sexy to him. I think that is all that matters. Well, it helps if I feel good too. So when I dont, that is when he sends me to go do something that will make me feel good. Cause he usually gets a real nice reward afterwards! If I could just lose 50-60 pounds I think i would feel much better. But it is more complicated than just baby fat.

Answer 3

I feel more empowered ...and that's a little sexy...but "sexy" in the conventional definition...No...this experience has taught me the functionality of my body that before was more for entertainment/pleasure...if you know what I mean...

It's all about the baby...even if I did look or feel sexy at the moment...I don't think I have the energy to give a schmit about that...lol.

I loved being pregnant and I think that pregnancy and childbirth and being a mother has made me a stronger person and made me wiser and that to me is attractive. I feel like I can do anything.

I feel beautiful again, but it's a different beautiful...I think it's not as superficial as it used to be.

And frankly...I can be this beautiful person that I am until the day I die...I can only be the beautiful person that I was pregnant for a few more years...so cherish this time...it's limited.

Breast feeding, sleep deprivation and not having the time to eat have done wonders on getting my self "back"...lol

Walking with baby and eating right and drinking tons of water and milk all help with breastfeeding and weight loss...so that also helped.

I have no complaints...pregnancy childbirth and childrearing is an unbelievable joy...I wouldnt change a thing.

Answer 4

I loved my body before my son!! I truly thought that I was a sexy woman. Although, during pregnancy I felt a different kinda sexy. I loved being pregnant! I can't wait to get pregnant again!!
Now I don't feel sexy at all. I don't see my breast as a "sex object" anymore, but now a feeding tool. My stomach is "looser" and my butt isn't tight anymore. I'm not saying that I am over weight or that I hate the way I look, I guess I really don't care how I look anymore. I am now, for the first time, comfortable with myself. I loved the way my body looked but that would consume my life.... always trying to look good. And the thing of it was is that I was trying for everyone else. I know that if I worked to tone everything it would go back to the way it was. My husband loves the way I looked and look now, so that makes it easier!

I have a precious baby boy.....what else could I possibly want in life?!

Answer 5

Okay, so I have been with my husband for 13 years,, married 7. He knew he wanted to marry me when he saw me in a pair of black jeans 'cause he said I had a great tight butt...and of course, I was super nice! :) 3 kids later, all under 3, 4 miscarriages and one full term lost baby...NO... I do not feel as sexy as I did 13 years ago in my black jeans...are black jeans even "in anymore" Anyway,, I am a whole lovely 50 lbs heavier and all though my husband says I am still sexy...that does not mean I feel it. Workign full time and taking care of home life...I feel 45 years old! Not 30!
Don't take this the wrong way...we just are way busy and my family history = heavier weight gain...but I think I have may have friends who still feel sexy...although I do not think any of them have ever said anything like that. Usually the only "feeling sexy" talk we have goes something like "Yeah, I know...Can you believe that after working 9 hours, being spit up on, having play dough combed through my hair by/for "mommy, how about highlights" and bleaching a ring'd tub...my husband actually wanted me to still get sexy..." Good luck!

Answer 6

I'd have to say sometimes. When I have the time and energy to get myself cleaned up nicely, yes. Some days I just don't bother and then, no. For the first six months, I felt horrible. I didn't have postpartum, I was just unhappy.

Then I lost the baby weight, got some new clothes, got a haircut and got my piercings back in (navel and nipples) and felt like my old self again.

Yes, caring for the baby is #1. But you have to remember that if you don't care for yourself properly, you won't be able to care for the baby. You'll be too miserable!

Answer 7

I really don't feel sexy now. My body was really stretched out during my pregnancy, and is still really saggy.

It is different than being pregnant, though. You eventually feel better after you have the baby, but give it time...depression is sometimes pretty strong for the first few months.

I feel better....FEEL....but I know I don't look any better.
But you appreciate WHY your body looks different, and the end product of that self-destruction is that beautiful baby.

Don't be too tough on yourself afterwards, and try to remember that you won't be pregnant for much longer. (I am sorry, but it will get worse before it gets better!)

Good luck to you, and congratulations!

Answer 8

Oh no. Not in the same ballpark. I proally dont look that different anymore (I've lost most of that weight, but things are in a different shape and texture ptthh)

Most of all, now that I'm a mommie that saps a lot of the energy and I rarely have time to put on the dog, which makes me feel frisky.

Answer 9

I never feel sexy anymore. I just feel like a mom. I have stretch marks that I can't get rid of and I've had a really hard time losing weight. I used to always be skinny so it's hard to create healthier habits to lose it. I have been working out alot, but nothing seems to help.......

Answer 10

After the baby is born you'll feel beautiful and sexy again. Don't feel so bad i've never had a baby and i'm as ugly as hell.