are you suppose to let mr.maybe perfect go??
or what do u do??
how do you handle this
2007-02-15 09:07:01 · 5 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all, nobody is "perfect." I've been married to the same man for nearly 30 years now and I love him with all my heart, and believe he's the best thing that ever happened to me, and I know he believes the same of me.
But we both know that we are not perfect, either as people or as partners.
And that's okay.
You and your spouse/partner are not going to have perfect agreement on everything. My husband and I have opposing views on things like welfare, "green" energy, how criminals should be punished, what television programs we like to watch, and whether steak should be cooked rare or well-done. There are some issues I care deeply about that he doesn't care a whack about, and some things vice-versa.
What counts is that we respect each other as competent people, and respect that it is possible to love someone and care about them and yet not agree with them on certain things. And respect their right to disagree with you, and have them respect your right to disagree with them.
When you decide that you and your mate have to have complete understanding on all matters, you set yourself up for disappointment. It isn't going to happen. What you do is decide what, for you, are the "dealbreaker" issues. Things where disagreement means you just can't make the relationship work out. Things where you just can't "agree to disagree" or can't respect your partner because of the disagreement.
2007-02-15 09:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect. Even the one you marry. My advice is even if this person seems like Mr. perfect relationships are built on communication and the sharing of similar values. Communication is everything and you should definitely talk to your mate about differences even though it is tough to talk about.
If you don't have any kind of understanding on matters, this can be a big deal. Every couple will have misunderstandings and disagreements from time to time.....this is life.....If you find yourself not sharing mutual values then move on. Plenty of fish in the sea, you just have to be proactive......good luck!
2007-02-15 09:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Philly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always, the ""perfect"" formula is messed up somewhere!
When that happens, I won't call that perfect, but one notch shy of perfection!
I've also been with Mr perfect once, but the way I feel on other matters was not worth it to keep him. I've tried and it hurt too bad when nothing changes. It was getting to me and this means you don't necessarily have a healthy relationship with Mr perfect.
It's up to you to choose if u can handle it. But leaving him, made me realise that the pond might be full of fish, but it takes years to pair with another perfect fish !
2007-02-15 09:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by She-whom-shall-not-be-named 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no Mr. Perfect, mabe near perfect.
Relationships were people have some kind of understanding are the ones that last the longest.
You can either let him go or you can compromise your beliefs. Your choice.
2007-02-15 09:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Perfect always has a pinkish hue; that's because he's being seen through rose-colored glasses. Give him some time, though, you'll find He's not completely perfect. But hey, if you still think he's even a good 65-75% after a year, go for it anyway! You've found something special! --Sionarra
2007-02-15 09:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sionarra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋