I always worry about what other people think of me!?

Question

How can I stop being approval-addicted?

Answer 1

It is normal for everyone to worry what other people think of them; although, of course, we all care in varying amounts. Often you are too concerned with what others think of you when aren't satisfied or comfortable with yourself. So ask yourself - What am I uncomfortable with? Is there any reason for this? Also it helps to realize that often the most seemingly confident people around you are the ones that are insecure on the inside. Some of them talk alot and put on this 'over-confident' image to hide their insecurity. Learn to do what makes You happy. That's all you can do - be yourself - and then it's up to others whether or no they 'approve' of you.

Answer 2

Not really. It is both human and genetic. Some people are more predisposed to such behavior than others; there is little you can do about it besides hanging around with crowds that perform behaviors you would want to emulate/feel comfortable and secure with. Your condition is not really a problem; even those who say they are so "independent" are similar to quite a few others and eventually form groups. (You always have slight exceptions, but they are just that; exceptions and not typical.) If you can acknowledge that you're "approval-addicted," you probably don't have as much of a problem as you think.

Answer 3

I was a victim of this and still am at times.
I was a tom-boy growing up. And the ugly duckling, I was too skinny, and well I could list many negative descriptions I had of myself. So...
I focused first on who I was. I knew I was a good person. As you probably are.
I started reading books on self-improvement. I read books on positive thinking, I read the Bible, and decided. To block out criticism, that was negative, and worthless. I except corrective criticism, especially if I need it.
Having a History of the Approval from everyone became impossible for me to comprehend. Then I became Me, I still learn new things everyday, about myself.

Now, if I do, or say something I believe in, and someone criticizes me. I Don't Care. I brush it off.

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

Wow! This is kinda scary as my name is Becky (as to Beka) and I have this addiction of wanting approval! But it seems to only come out in me the worst when my step mother in law is around. She has such high expectations for those who are blessed to be apart of her "Family" so trying to meet them has been a large emotional challenge for about 6 years. But lately I have started to ensure that I think of 10 things that I love about me each day...it can be as simple as I love my butt in a pair of levi's (lol)...the point is, over time I have started to gain more confidence and being me is starting to be better than trying to mold myself into what others think I should be. Good Luck to you!!

Answer 5

Everybody, whether they are willing to admit to it or not, worries how others perceive them. It's human nature. It only becomes a problem when it interferes with your daily life. If it is, then you need to sit back and think about why You are always worried of what others will think of you. When you figure out what those reasons are you need to work on changing your way of thinking about them. When you become comfortable with them, it will not be such a problem for you when meeting others.

Answer 6

If you haven't done anything wrong you shouldn't be worry dear
you know there are ALWAYS people which talk and say things
can you always be worry aboput what they might say about you for all your life?
though you haven't done nothing?
ignore anything about it
if you could and you had to just tell them the truth nicely and then leave them
Do every thing right and you SHOULD NOT be worry
yeah?
but if you've done something......
well by the way always in life choose the best way in every thing choose the best way of leaving
good luck

Answer 7

Look at what MOST people say about you -- good and bad. Work on eliminating or playinf down your weaknesses and increasing or playing to your strengths. Gradually you will get to a point where you will hear (mostly) positive comments and you will get used to it to the point where it won't matter any more whether you hear positive comments (since you hear them all the time) or negative comments (because most comments are positive).

Answer 8

Don,t be just be yourself and smile if they don,t like you for you too bad There missing out on somebody great good luck

Answer 9

i, too, fought with this notion for years. eventually, i was able to convince nyself that i knew who i was and that i was/am a good person. if other poeple don't see me as such, that's their misfortune.
be less hard on yourself.