when people first meet me i KNOW that i put myself out there as an kind, fun, and outgoing person. but the problem is i think i may having a problem relating to other people. it is like i dont know them like that and they dont know me like that. so we dont have much to talk about. is it me?
2007-02-15 08:32:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HEY...... your just like me. Your not a loner. You just dont have much to talk to with anyone. Me I just talk about useless crap like tv, music and joke around.
2007-02-15 08:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by iwearshoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you probably are, or not you at all but the pepople you meet. I am similar to what you are describing and I want to meet new people but the people I meet never turn out to be who they seemed to be in the beginning. The guys are pervs trying to sleep with you and the females are typical females, gossipy, catty or just not my cup of tea. So usually it ends there because I can't pretend to be interested or friends with someone that annoys me. I know it gets lonely sometimes but as long as you have one or two solid friends that's all you need. Everyone else is an acquaintance. All the best.
2007-02-15 16:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way, I am outgoing and like to meet people, but the problem is I don't like to be bothered when they do. I mean sometime they may want to hang out and I don't or they may want to visit and I don't. Or even maybe people want to talk on the phone and I don't. I like people but i don't like to be bothered once they do something that urke me or something I don't like. I really understand how you feel. Look on the bright side only be bothered when you want. (smile)
2007-02-15 16:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be a loner. Or you could be a person who takes a long time to get to know someone well. And just as you want to get close to someone the person gets fed up and you are left alone.
2007-02-15 16:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a loner too!! I just can't keep a conversation going!! I think it's genetic! I hate myself for not being able to make long lasting friends!!
2007-02-15 16:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by melina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a loner... but maybe the problem is you are not meeting people that share your same interest and you just move on and find people who share the same interest with
2007-02-15 16:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by scytherbug@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have social anxiety disorder and have the same problem you do. I come across the same way but when it comes to relating one on one I have a hard time opening up and letting them really get to know me.
2007-02-15 16:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as much reading of interesting things as you can and talk to
as many people as you can and soon you will be interesting to
others and they will be interesting to you.
2007-02-15 16:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by gv farmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to find people that you might or do have stuff in common with that really interest you. for example if you really like soccer then you will feel more comfortable talking about soccer then eventually you will get used to just talking about anything. find common interests. believe me it worked for me.
2007-02-15 16:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by 9thwonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what if it is you? some people are just like that. you like your personal space and take your time getting to know and share with people. thats fine. we're all difft and you are probably perfect as you are!
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2007-02-15 16:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by third space 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋