Some marriages are short lived and some are "til death do us part". What are the key ingredients to the latter? What are the husbands responsibilities and what are the wifes? or Is it all just plain luck?
2007-02-15 08:18:50 · 12 answers · asked by JV 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is the husband and wife's responsibility to put 100% into their marriage. Both need to treat each other with respect and show their love to each other. Luck has nothing to do with it. Successful marriages (not the ones that are faking it) take a lot of work. Unless both are willing to give themselves completely, there will likely be problems.
2007-02-15 08:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not finding someone to marry you, it's keeping the sparks alive after you say "I Do". Courting your wife should not end at the altar, but continue for as long as you both live. If two people truly love and honor one another, seeking the other's desires and needs above their own, a beautiful, harmonious, heavenly marriage will evolve. But, if each is entering marriage with the idea of, "What's in this for me?", then this relationship is doomed before is gets started. A successful, happy, exciting marriage happens when two people join hand and hearts and each contributes to the relationship 100%. Anything less will cause an imbalance, and things will fall apart. Marriage is not for the weak-will or the self-centered. It is the foundation for the next generation, and needs to be solidified by commitment, love, honor, respect for each other. Our children deserve that and so much more. Besides, when you give 100%, guess what you get back in return? You guessed it, 100%. What a great law, you get what you give. It's a boomerang...you get back what you give away. A great marriage does not just happen...you have to MAKE it happen. Hope this helps.
2007-02-15 08:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people think everything is disposable these days...To find two people who don't look at it that way is almost impossible.When you marry, you need to understand its a 24/7, 365 ( and leap year 366 ) job.Probably the toughest you'll ever have..The trick is to always remember why you fell for the partner you have and always keep that picture in your heart...To unconditionally Love someone means excepting the fact that he snores, leaves hair in the sink,has stinky feet and pays too much attention to sports on the weekend....But most important is to remember we are HUMAN...and we do make mistakes....We all deserve a second chance ( some will disagree ) Love is worth it....It is a treasure behold this world,that's why no one can describe or explain it. Look beyond the outside into the soul...That's where you will find love ever lasting...." 30 " years this year and more in Love than ever...
2007-02-15 08:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dixie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs alcohol and an early death may grantee some couples success in remaining together from the wedding to the grave.
Other then above-mentioned horrible answer, I think a good marriage takes a lot of team work, communication and compromise, not the least bit of this, you need to marry the right partner for you, and for the right reasons.
Good Luck.
2007-02-15 08:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not luck. It is making an effort. Do your part in the household chores, run errands, etc. ALWAYS be honest and always respect each other. And show physical affection - touching hands, kisses for no reason, cuddling while watching tv. It's the little things that keep a relationship from going stagnant.
2007-02-15 08:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by ldgbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life offers no guarantee. People shouldn't get married when they are very young. And people change as they get older and take on more responsibilities. All these require maturity and sense of sharing responsibility instead of self-centered. And even with all that, there is no guarantee.
2007-02-15 08:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that honesty, integrity,religious and self moral value are a must for everyone, followed by love the relationship will last forever ..i know this first hand because lacking all of the above is dissolving a 24 yr. relationship sending me like S**T! down the drain
2007-02-15 08:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by jarux 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no secret. When two people are committed to
each other, are responsible, honest, communicate,
trust, support , love, each other then they become as one
and the bond is so strong that it is unbreakable and it
works as we just passed our 20th anniversary and our
marriage is as solid as a rock.
2007-02-15 14:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both parties to the marriage have to make the marriage their #1 priority. Otherwise it just won't work.
2007-02-15 08:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Single4Good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When each person cares for the other's needs above their own. If both people are committed to that, each person's needs will always be met.
This is not always easy...it takes work and committment, but it is well worth it.
2007-02-15 08:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by kac7700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋