the only problem with that is that we are both female, and i don't know how i feel about that. i have kissed her before, but i am also Brazilian and that is the custom.. i don't know what to do.. i love her but i don't know if we feel the same way about each other.. please help i am lost here. Aurora
2007-02-15 08:07:59 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her your not like that..explain to her the customs..make wise friend choices too..
2007-02-15 08:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Let me get this. You said you love her. You said you kissed her (I would assume you are talking about in her mouth “French kiss”). You said she wants to have sex with you. And you said you don’t know how you two feel about each other.
Well, to me is clear she likes you and she really wants to have sex with you, otherwise she wouldn’t have asked you risking her friendship with you.
Now, does she love you? We don’t know that, but I think you should have a good idea since she is your best friend. And if you don’t, then ask her! She told you “lets get sexual”. Fine, now is your turn to ask her what matters to you.
On the other hand, why did you kiss her? Do you actually love her? Or you are just bi-curious? Either way, you must be feeling something in there for her.
The doors have been open. It is now your turn to decide if to step in or not. It seems that you are just afraid of the relation. Talk to your friend, find out what she really wants, and if is something you want, then go ahead and explore your bi-sexual side (or lesbian if you think you don’t like guys).
You will never know if you don’t try anyways.
Good luck, and if you go ahead, have fun!!
PS. Make sure that both of you know the risks of STD. Be safe!
2007-02-15 08:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question leaves a lot to read between the lines. You say you are Brazilian, and that is your cutom to kiss. However, you say you love her, but you don't know if you both feel the same way about each other. My point is: You sound as though you are a Lesbian, but don't want to commit to sex unless she feels the same way about you. ASK HER!!
2007-02-15 08:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you might be interested. Tell your friend that you have mixed feelings about the situation, that you don't want it to ruin your friendship. Tell her that if you decide to go ahead and try it, that if you ask her to stop not to be offended and that you simply are sure that you want to do that with her. Or you could just wait until you KNOW for sure that you do or don't. Personally, having sexual relations with the same sex is something that you may like after you try it, or you may find that it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable, and you will know that immediately. I think you are interested, not as much as she is, I think you are slightly into the idea. Go for it, if you don't like it, then stop. And tell her, hey, I tried it, and it's not for me but I still love ya anyway!
2007-02-15 08:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by tlimsisnw7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee wizz!! lol, tell her how you feel. I was in the same situation but it was a guy and i wasnt sure how i felt, then when i went to talk to him about my feelings, we agree to have a casual "buddy" relationship, after him being my best friend and all, i thought, ok sure, then it all turned sour and we havent spoken for a couple of years. If we had never made that decision we would still be friends today
2007-02-15 08:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you are not completely comfortable with. Personally I think there are boundaries, friends are friends and lovers are lovers. You can be friends as well as lovers but it doesn't work for me the other way round. Take some time to think about the situation and be honest with her. She may have misunderstood the kiss.
2007-02-15 08:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and friends never works out.
Someone always ends up feeling rejected. And that totally ruins the very idea of friendship.
If you are not that interested in her, better to stop now before it gets more complicated. and you should stop kissing her - she obviously does not think of it as simply customary.
2007-02-15 08:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not lost. I can tell by the way you asked your question you are not comfortable with doing what she wants.
Honey, go with how you feel and what you know is right.
I doubt you love her in that way.
Don't ever do anything you will end up regretting when you look back later.
2007-02-15 08:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that it is just customary for your culture to kiss. However, if you're not gay then don't engage in homosexual acts with this girl. Let her know that you are not interested in her like that. If she ignores it then it may be time to move on and find a new best friend who is straight. Good luck
2007-02-15 08:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your unsure or feel uncomforable about it, then your probably not ready. Just be straight forward with her, she will respect that if she's your friend. And remember, when friends have sex, the dynamics of there friendship can change dramatically. Good luck.
2007-02-15 08:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that although you've kissed you don't feel tha way about her. explain that you are sorry if you gave her the wrong impression and that you kissed her more out of custom than anything else.
2007-02-15 08:15:49 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋