over 15 years ago make me unable to trust and fully give myself to someone now?
2007-02-15 08:04:51 · 9 answers · asked by precious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it can. If you hang on to the pain and hurt, it can effect you the rest of your life. Therapy/Counseling would be helpful. Good luck.
2007-02-15 08:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by delanabobana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can. Im going through that now and this guy hurt me when we were dating and now we are married. I let it get in the way of trusting him and fully being there for him. I dont know if its the same type situation but I also had someone else hurt me before him and I view my husband as possibly being able to do that to me too. So both ways I just dont have a lot of trust for anyone.
2007-02-15 16:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are able to forgive and forget, once it is out in the open and the feelings of frustration and heartache or anger and grief are said it is done and over with and people move on....it's when you hold it in, keep it to yourself or unable to understand the whys of the situation that cause a person to distrust or fully give yourself to anyone. The unexplained is the hardest thing a person has to face in life.
2007-02-15 16:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes absolutely it can, especially if u never resolved it, it can make us build a wall around our heart. therapy can help u trust again. the past is in the past, not happening now, but its still there and in your mind, so u may need to forgive that person who hurt u, by letting them off the hook for the injustice they did, not expecting anything from them, and moving forward in life, why let bitterness rob u of any future with someone. all people are not like the one who hurt u. u have to move past it, and leave it in the past. its just a bad memory.
2007-02-15 16:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely! If you have unresolved issues from the past- something that took a major toll on your emotions and well being, and you haven't gotten past it - it can definitely come back in the form of jealousy, anger, and mistrust.
Talk to a counselor, get some perspective.
2007-02-15 16:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my wife's father leaving her mother when my wife was 2 years old, then disappearing (and not paying child support) for several years has given her a subconcious fear that I will do the same thing to her.
So yea, something can screw you up for life.
2007-02-15 16:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No everyone makes mistakes.
2007-02-15 16:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby, you can talk about anything with me. i am your bestest friend and i will try my best to help you. please dont keep me shut out. i love you!
2007-02-15 16:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by yungblud00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you let it
2007-02-19 13:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋