My husband has never really had much of a sex drive, so I've gotten used to just taking the opportunities I'm given. But lately, its gotten very infrequent. It wouldn't bother me so much until now, the last two times we've started to have sex, he's started out really into it, and then just stopped half way, saying he's just not in the mood anymore. Its been extremely frustrating to me, not to mention it makes me feel pretty worthless in the bedroom. What could be wrong? We're still young, we've only been married 5 months. Please Help.
2007-02-15 07:16:50 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
could be anything. maybe it's a medical problem or a mental one. maybe he doesn't find you attractive or maybe he's cheating. you need to talk him about it
2007-02-15 07:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Peachie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you have a major problem. What will your sex life be in a year or two? You either need professional help or it's time to get out before you regret staying with him. With not much of a sex drive, I know it's too late now, but maybe you should have considered this before you married.
2007-02-15 07:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. You are doing nothing wrong. He just married you 5 months ago! He's GAY. And deep down, you already knew this. Does he come from a religious or conservative family that would frown on him being gay? BTW, this is yet another argument in favor of sex before marriage... you really have to work this stuff out before you make the commitment.
2007-02-15 07:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's bad, five months and your love life is, well, non-existent? You need to address this now, because something is definitely up, (although not the part you want).
Make sure you sort this out, and see what is going on with your husband, it's normal not to be in the mood now and again, but in your case, there might be other factors at play.
2007-02-15 07:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks marriage is a let down for him, its hard to suggest since you have only been married 5 months. Is he stressed, depressed or on any medication. I think you should consult a doctor, just to have him checked out.
He could possibly still want someone else, but married you (not to make you feel worthless, but such things do happen) or could be getting it someplace else. Or he is secretly gay.
2007-02-15 07:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he gay? Is he getting it some where else? If you aren't making love at least 3 times a week and have only been married for 5 months then there is a major issue here. Try and talk to him about it.
2007-02-15 07:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex doesnt get better or more frequent after you are married so dont think for a second that it will. S_X can be shared in many ways and if he isnt good at something, he can make up for it by amusing your fantasies.....if he is a good man he will do whatever it takes, if he doesnt then maybe it wasnt meant to be.
2007-02-15 22:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl I'm sorry to hear that damn right in the middle he stops I know its kind of early but maybe you guys should go to a sex therapist who will show both of you how to be into having sex where you both will enjoy it. Have you told your husband that this is a problem that your having with him. Good luck and God Bless..
2007-02-15 07:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jo3-Jo3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and find out what it is, naybe there is something that is bothering him like a painful situation in the past that he has not gotten over...ask him how he feels and after he tells you how he feels then you tell your side with your feelings...good luck
2007-02-15 08:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be depressed, it`s worth looking into. Newlyweds should not be having this kind of problem. If he refuses help, I`m sorry you may have to move on. Being that young and having no sexual desire is not normal, not to mention it would be hard on your self worth.
2007-02-15 07:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him about the feelings you are having. See if he won't talk about what is bothering him. He my be depressed or stressed out about things that are going on at work. Just talk. It will help.
2007-02-15 07:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋