I just don;t know whats wrong with me. I was complainin that my hubby does not want me and when he wants me, I don;t enjoy sex with him. I start to wonder is it me. He is great husband always loving trying to understand me and always care about what I say to him. I love him but why I do not enjoy.. its only him that I have felt that way
2007-02-15 07:15:02 · 14 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it might just be depression. it can cause you to not have any sexual desires
2007-02-15 07:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens to lots of us.
Is it the way he does things, or are there things you would rather him do differently that maight help you enjoy things more? Experiment with some toys or things that might be fun for both of you! Talk to him. It sounds like he would be open to some fun- Especially if it makes things more fun for you.
Are you not attracted to him sexually? Physically? Those things can be a turnoff- Regardless of how great a husband is.
Do you think you just want his attention? Sex isn't the only way for him to show you attention. Walks in the park, the beach, make out like teenagers in a car in a parking lot...window shopping- Just being together or reconnecting may help you realize that he wants you.
2007-02-15 15:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, love in and of itself does not ensure that you'll have sexual satisfaction. As with any activity, sex can become complacent if there's no variety. If he only want's you under certain conditions that you've become too familiar with than you won't be completely satisfied. I'm sure both of you have fantasies, you should talk to him about these and possibly exlore them a little bit. By adding a little spice to your sex life you may find that you enjoy it a lot more.
Hope it helps.
2007-02-15 15:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by yn_tennison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the only problem you have is that you no longer enjoy having sex with him - have you recently put on weight? 9 times out of 10 when a woman starts to dread sex, it's because she no longer likes herself! Get in front of the mirror, and take a long look. You are the only one that can fix this problem! Self esteem is a priceless thing -- so do what you have to do to make yourself feel better about you!
Best wishes!
2007-02-15 15:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is going to be wrong with you is that you're going to be a single woman if you keep putting your husband through all of that. You need to talk to someone and get some help and figure out why you're so incapable of feeling satisfied.
2007-02-15 15:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r under stress it can cause lose of interest in sex even if u truely love or in love with the person. try to concentrate on just the moment that u r in and nothing else. dont not leave the moment
2007-02-15 15:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Dixi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Student is right. Sex is not everything. You don't need to turn it into some kind of drama. Don't do it if you both not into it. Do other activities that you both enjoy instead, like massaging, cooking, watching a movie together......good luck!
2007-02-15 15:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That means the sex sucks!!! Do something to spice it up...any small little change will work...Get a rose..slowly rub it on his chest and nipples and work your way down and then have him do the same to you....there is an awesome feeling when you have flowers tickling you!!!!!
2007-02-15 15:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just need a little more confidence. you probably feel that hes just trying to make you happy and then you dont enjoy it because you think he didnt really want it, but you asked him to. its all in your head im sure. just relax and try to forget about everything and if your confident in yourself it should be great. maybe you guys should try and switch it up a little bit.
2007-02-15 15:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not everything.Try seeing a sex therapist if it is a causing problems in your marriage.
2007-02-15 15:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by Student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it may be wise to see a sex therapist who may well change the way you see things, I would certainly have a go
2007-02-15 15:20:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋