my best friend is 22 and still lives with her parents. like 3 weeks ago she got a boyfriend who is really amazing and they have been going out a lot. well her parents dont like this and are mad at her. they think she needs to spend more time at home with them. its making her really stressed out. she wants to move out but she cant afford to buy her own place. what can i say to her to make her feel better about it?
2007-02-15 07:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by christine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
theyre not afraid for her to grow up. theyre afraid she'll do grown up things in an undesired order and leave them to pick up the pieces. tell your friend to move out of her parents house...try with a friend or relative until she can get on her feet herself. peace
2007-02-15 07:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to deal with this situation. Reason being, I'm 21 and kinda going through the same thing. I still live with my parents because I'm in college and cannot afford my own place. I'm still stressed because my family wants me at home but at the same time, I want to be with my boyfriend (who is amazing as well). Tell her to take some time and see where their relationship goes. She needs to talk to her family about the stress she is feeling. This stress may cause her to make an unwanted and drastic decision, like moving in with him. She needs to think whether this is the guy for her or not. Tell her to stick it out until she's sure about her feelings. I've felt frustrated at times too and have been wanting to make bad decisions, but in the end, if prince charming isn't prince charming, we better have our ties with out family in good standing because we will be running back to them for help. Tell her that with time it will be okay. Tell her not to rush and have a talk with her family. If they do not want to understand, then she needs to stand her ground and prove to her parents that her decision is not a mistake. I've talked to my parents and they are coming to terms with the idea, even though sometimes they do get mad when I spend a lot of time with him. I'm going on 2 years with him and things are getting better every time I have a talk with both my parents and my boyfriend.
2007-02-15 15:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by candy_rain06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what she is going through. I am 26 and an engaged. I met my future husband when I was 24. My parents never even really took the time to get to know him. They just see him as the man taking their daughter away. My parents would get mad when I would be gone alot and even went as far as to try to apply rules (such as curfew) that I haven't had to abide by since I was in my teens. I went back and forth between defending my then boyfriend and defending my parents. When I got engaged it got WORSE! My own mom didn't even ask to see my ring the night I got engaged. I finally just had to relaize that this is MY life and if I am going to be happy I have to do what makes me happy. I ended up moving in with my fiance to try to salvage our relationship and it was the best choice I ever made. We are so happy now that I am not around the constant judement of my parents. My parents no only speak to me when they have to and that is not how I want things to be. But, I am happy with my life and my choices. Please tell your friend that she just needs to do what makes her happy. At the end of the day she is the one who has to live with all of her choices and I know I couldn't live with the choice of choosing my parents possible happiness over my future!
2007-02-15 15:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do about it except to be there for her. She has to make her decisions and live her life. If she wants to work it out with her parents, tell her to sit down and have a mature heart to heart conversation with them. Have them explain to her exactly what the problem is and explain her position without it becoming an argument. Be her friend and help her through the tough times.
2007-02-15 15:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 22. She can do whatever the hell she wants. Tell your friend to save up some money until she can afford her own place, and then her parents won't be able to control her life anymore. She's 22 for god sakes. That's the time to have fun and have boyfriends/girlfriends! Jeez...
2007-02-15 15:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not much -- a long as child (at any age) is living at home,
it's almost impossible to convince parents that you're adult
enough to not need parental "guidance". If you can afford to buy
double/triple etc up and rent a place.
2007-02-15 15:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in the same situation myself except that they are ok with me and my bf since i have a curfew to be home at 10 oclock the latest. my problem is right now my bf lives in massachusset he been visiting since the day we met, but i can't go see him. i want to spend the week end with him but my family are against it. just so u know i am 25 going to be 26.
2007-02-15 15:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋