When i was 16 i met someone who i don't think i'll ever get over. He was 25 and a bit of a scoundrel but he was always great to me,i was so in love with him,i'm actually getting upset now cos it does still hurt! I havn't got enough space or time to write down exactly how i felt but lets just say i look back on those days and everyone of them was sunny.We were split up by my mother,who i guess thought she was doing right by me,and he was kept an eye on by police,who apparently had been informed and were going to revoke his parole if they saw us together,it was petty offences. I was totally lost without him,it's wierd looking back now but i can remember that time so vividly it's like it was yesterday. I am 28 now ,and married to someone else. He was in my dream last night and it's brought it all back to me today,i sometimes wish i had gone against everyone and just been with him,am i just romanticising the whole situation or will he be in my heart forever?
2007-02-15 07:13:24 · 14 answers · asked by heebygeeby 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ History
Thanks for the great answers so far,you've all been great.I was with him for 3 months,we didn't sleep together although looking back at my first time i wish it had of been with him,the age thing wasn't an issue it sounds bad but it wasn't. I was naive and a very sweet girl but he didn't take advantage of that,i think he'd had so many bad things in his life from an early age,i was something good.
2007-02-15 07:31:07 · update #1
I am not in your head so I can't say whether you are just missing the last chapter of a relationship or if it was your real soul mate that you were denied.
I can tell you, I was 22 and in Vietnam when she found another guy. I am 59 now and have been married for over 35 years to the same woman but I still think about her from time to time. And answering this will keep her in the front of my mind for days if not weeks. But it's OK, there are worse things in my life to be reminded of.
I doubt mine will ever go away completely. George Jones does a song called "He Stopped Loving Her Today". Every time I hear it I think it was written for me. The lyrics are on the web if you would like to read them.
One thing I would like to know. I just wonder if she is happy, I hope she is, she was very special and deserves to be happy.
2007-02-15 07:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think:
You're not much older than he was? Would you ever find a 16-year-old attractive and able to be a true companion?
I hope not.
So much happens between 16 and 25 that any 25 year old who would find someone that young worthy of being a heart's companion has some serious maturity issues.
Everyone involved did a great job keeping you away from him. Especially seeing as he had a prison record. (!!!)
That said, I think it's normal to reflect back on past loves that ended unresolved and to wonder, "what if..."
Especially those loves we had in our first bloom of youth, because we weren't yet mature enough to differentiate between being in love with someone and maybe someone not being the best person for us or us not being the best person for someone.
He should have know, at 25, that he had no business getting involved with you. Had he truly been mature and loved you, he would have left you alone the second he realized he was attracted to you or vice versa.
Again, put yourself in his shoes. He was a selfish man to get inside your head like that.
Sure, your marriage may be in a slump, but the answer lies in bettering yourself and making your future brighter, not looking to the past for better days.
2007-02-15 15:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Monc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone remembers their first love fondly (Unless it was a bad relationship I suppose). Bad boys are the best when youre young (not so bad when youre a bit older as well!). I think we remember what could have been and omit the fact that maybe it wasnt such a good idea. We remember the joy of being in love and not any of the problems like what would I have done when he went to jail.
My first love and I were going to emigrate to Canada and have a whole brood of kids. But this other girl came along telling lies and split us up. Before he got married I saw him and he said 'dont you wish it could be like it was in the good old days' I smiled sweetly but thought no I dont Ive grown up a bit. But the memories are as sweet as ever even now.
2007-02-15 15:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where you focus your life and your heart is where your soft-spot will be. As the years continue you may think of that "first-love" in romantic ways, but very likely the fondness will dim in time. Your husband and children are there with you in an everyday way, and they NEED YOU. So, the more you focus on the present and future, the less you will think of the old relationships that will never be. Assuming your husband is a law-abiding citizen, you can be counting your blessings.
For me, it's not that I don't remember, it is more like the living color of it all has faded to black-and-white and, too that I am SO thankful I didn't marry the guy who was on such a rough path in life. -- That could have been my rough path too.
2007-02-15 15:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 years old when i realized tht i fall in love with a man who was 24 years old. He was caring , lovely and never take advantage .we had 7 years in relationship ..but because of the differences of culture , religion , race had torn us apart. I left him without a word..and never meet him again until now..but those past years , he is the one who always on my mind... and someday i hope to meet him again....married or unmarried ..that the strength of the FIRST LOVE....
2007-02-16 00:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id say no you can never ever forget about your first love. They will always have a place in your heart your emotions and dreams. You can move on they can move on. But no one can take the thoughts and memories from you. I know no one can do that about me.
2007-02-15 15:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Robert G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a long description. It certainly made me forget my first love, old what's 'er name. But then she may not have been my first love. I may have forgotten about some others before her, or after her. Gee, I guess, if someone can remember their first love as being their first love, they didn't get over them.
2007-02-15 15:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never! I remember all my past relationships. (the first more than others perhaps).....I think about her/them often...wonder what they are doing now.....and that was 43 years ago...I believe that as long as we remember the lessons learned stay fresh. Both good and bad. History forgotten dooms us to repeat it.
2007-02-15 15:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to renew your ways in order to strengthen your relationship with your husband; the more you love him the more you'll get to forget about the other guy!
2007-02-15 15:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by richeb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW your even married and you miss him,
I remember someone BUT I'M GLAD HE'S GONE THE CHICKEN HEAD
2007-02-15 15:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋