2007-02-15 06:45:18 · 29 answers · asked by caramelberrry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes I can see the problem. Our decisions we make will haunt us for our entire lives .Admitting them is the first step. We all make mistakes..It feels terrible to have made them.Are you wanting to make it right? And now you deal with the hurt you have caused. All you can do is learn from the mistake and make yourself stronger. You did the right thing coming here..As I have with my problem.I have stared mine on my answers page, I asked and owned it under a different id .embarrassed but i will own it. We must all help each other. You failed to mention you husband in this.? Do you care how this will affect him? I would if I were you. I am crushed and i only was on chat. making friends. Not that i was right going on chat. I realize chat is cheating too. I was wrong too. For support.I would say...Remember why you love your husband If you still do... I don't know many details? i am missing here. want to know how else i can help.. I can use some too.. Does your husband know? or are you stopping before he does.? Or did your boyfriend end this as I think he may have.? I rethink my previouse answer wondering needing many more facts. Think hard how this will hurt him your husband.?. What you are feeling doesnt compare how he will feel. You can do it .I hope you are hear for the right reasons as I am. I really dont know from the information you havent included. Be strong hopefully LOVE will see you through. email if you like i want to help. A man below me also seems to have a point. Its harsh But true. one more thing for you to remember
Love is Patient
Love is kind
Never Jealous
Never boastful
Never Rude
Never Never selfish
Work on these things on future Relationships
2007-02-15 06:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we have two big no no's here. One is that you're married and had an affair. The second one is having a fling with a coworker. You may never get over him if you are seeing him daily, you know? The fact that you're married and cheated is a red flag to me. If you are honestly not happy in your marriage, cheating isn't the answer. I used to work with someone I dated; we were both not married, I ended up quitting after I broke it off with him because it was so unbearable, but he also made it known he was a flirt and dating. I'm not sure how to help ya on this one, one issue at a time for you to deal with =) Good luck!
2007-02-15 06:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you, poor you, poor you. How typical you are. You did wrong and all you can worry about is how you feel and the pain you are having. Probably a fairly constant pattern of behavior in your life.
And you wonder why so many of us have the extremely low opinions which we have of people in general. Thank you for simply helping me make my point.
Now I suppose you will want to come back and post a lot more details of how you were not the bad one or some tripe like that, right? How we have judged you unfairly or too harshly. Sorry, even if that is the case, you have the opportunity to post all relevant details to start with.
Again, you are a selfish and immoral goober in my view, very typical of the 21st century human.
2007-02-15 07:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many people are heartbroken or sad etc after the fact
then they want someone to comfort them and make them
go on in life. A mistake in marriage can not be execused
sometimes and now you want to know how to get over
from seeing him daily also. None of us are perfect but
some of us also do not get in situations that we will regret
afterwards in marriage, and those of us that do well we
need to look inside our conscience and figure out what
it is we want in a marriage and if we really think hard then
we know what it is that makes it right.
2007-02-15 14:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you Heartbroken? Because you still love the Affair and it's gone or because you are unfaithful and have broken your vow of marriage?
If you still want the affair please tell your husband it's over and get on with your new life. Life is too short to be someplace you do not want to be.
If its because you have broken your vow then you need to tell your husband and move on with whatever choice he makes.You don't want to live a lie for the rest of your life do you? Remember life is too short.
Either way your course of action is hurting 2 people. You and your husband...if you have any honor left please tell your husband how you feel.
This is the only way to true happiness
The only way
2007-02-15 07:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by Answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one reason why it is not a good idea to get involved with a co-worker. You have a husband to take care of so get over the guy you had and AFFAIR with. Get a new job and hopefully you have to explain to your husband why!!!
2007-02-15 06:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time
2007-02-15 06:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by pretty face 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write down the things you notice about him you DON' T like...dwell on them only. Also remember the position you are in now because of this affair.
2007-02-15 06:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your big mistake was to get emotional with the guy. An affair should be just that an affair. Let him jump your bones and move on. He must be ok with that.
2007-02-15 06:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by bigh5586 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look for another job immediately before you lose your husband and family! Then you really will be heartbroken!!
2007-02-15 06:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by HENRY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋