My husband is overseas. My friend's guy friend bought her something and he got me something too. I know he didn't mean it to be bad. I think he felt bad that my husband was gone and that he was getting something for my friend. He didn't want me to feel left out. Now my husband is really really upset. He started yelling at me saying why did you except it. And you need to call and yell at him and tell him never to give you something again! Did I do something wrong? I understand that my husband is jealous, but I don't think it's my fault. What should I do? Should I yell at this guy even though he was just trying to be nice?
2007-02-15 06:39:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
It was probably just a friendly gesture. Tell yur husband that...
2007-02-18 05:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Chef Combo S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, sticky situation. He was just trying to be nice, then you were just trying to be honest with your husband, but he's stuck overseas and feels helpless and then he gets mad at you because he knows he can't be there to ward off the men here who may try to take advantage of you. Except in this case the guy was just being nice. He should've cleared it with your husband first, I mean, you don't mess with other people's wives even if you are trying to be nice. What a mess. Don't yell at the guy. Just tell him you're sorry, but your husband will not let you accept the gift, but thanks anyway for the thoughtfulness. Then call your husband right away and tell him what you did. Put his mind at ease because he is over there suffering about this. Maybe the guy could talk to your husband to clear it up?!
2007-02-15 14:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what "IT" was. If it was something innocent, I'd would tell him thank you and explain to my husband that it was thoughtful considering he was away and the guy is his friend. That's what friends do. Maybe even get the two on the phone together or speakerphone and find out if there really is a problem.
Being nice in the world shouldn't be punished. Bad intentions should be. Plus, you're the one alone and worse things in the world are happening these days. I think it was just a thoughtful gesture.
End of Story.
2007-02-15 14:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...difficult to answer. BUT, even though your hubby is overseas and likely very stressed, he, as your husband, should have WAY more faith in your judgement. However, if you are dedicated to your hubby and choose to be bullied, then I would say return the gift to the giver. Be sure to thank him for his thoughtfullness and briefly explain that this upset your husband, and that it is out of love and respect for your husband that you MUST not accept the gift.
2007-02-16 22:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by ClarksKitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's jealous and upset. Its understandable from the stories we here about when partners are overseas. No. You did nothing wrong and your hubby should calm down. Give it time. He see he overreacted. And don't yell at the poor guy either, it will cause probelms between you and your freind. He meant well. See ya.
2007-02-15 14:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by The Syko Ward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the gift is....if it's something like a card and a stuffed animal it would have been rude for you not to accept it but if he bought you a diamond tennis bracelet then you should not have accepted that......if I were in your case I would mention it to my friend and if her bf started hitting on you after that mention that also....if it's not an extravagent gift just tell your husband to chill out and it's nothing serious...
2007-02-15 14:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do that. Just ask him why he gave you a gift. You're probably right he felt bad that your husband is away and this might make you feel better about missing him. I don't think he meant any harm. Just talk to him and see what's up.
2007-02-15 20:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by justmmez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy was just being nice for god's sake You didn't do anthing wrong!
Explain the situation calmly to your husband and tell him that you wouldn't accept anything from the guy again. As for the guy himself, he didn't do anything wrong so you shouldn't say anything to him really + it's too late anyway!
2007-02-15 14:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give a sexy gift back to both the guy and his girlfriend that will send a clear message: you are endorsing the two of them being together, and that's it!
2007-02-15 14:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for nothing but why did you even mention it to such a jealous man (your hubby). Yes I understand that your a very honest woman when it comes to your marriage - you couldn't you see that coming?
2007-02-15 14:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋