How Can I Find Love?

Question

Sometimes I feel so close to finding it, but then I realise that it isn't close at all...so, how do you find love?

Answer 1

I dont think you can just find it, like a lost item. I believe love has to find you.

Answer 2

Hmm. Sometimes its easy and sometimes it isnt. I think that you'll know when youve found love. Something will "click" with that person. It could be immediatly or may take a while. Give it time. And the will and patient to give it time proves that you really love that person. If you didnt really care too much about them you wouldnt bother to waste your time. You'll know when they are the one thing you cant stop thinking about no matter what. They completely throw off your focus on everything else. You may be late for work sometimes or late meeting some friends, not good things but now you know there's something important standing in the way of everything else you have to do. That thing is a person. And a person you must be in love with, because no one can effect you quite like they do. You anticipate and get nervous over waiting for just a phone call from them, you get shivers down your spine and butterflies in your stomach whenever they are around. THAT is someone you must be in love with. :] I really hope you find love and remember..dont waste your time on someone who isnt willing to waste their time on you.

Sorry about it being so long, I hope it helped you though. And they say a 15 year old girl cant know anything..but I think in a much older mind frame. :D

Answer 3

The most important step it to be lovable. There are many aspects to being lovable. Intelligence, sensitivity, depth, integrity, self-knowledge, creativity, a sense of enthusiasm about life…and so on. If you mope around feeling sorry for yourself and never really get interested in the world, you will have difficultly finding love. I'm not saying that you need to be perfect (in fact, a modest degree of quirkiness, eccentricity, or dysfunctionality can even make you interesting, unique, and downright appealing). The key is to be honest with yourself, and courageous in plumbing the depths of your own soul. Whether you realize it or not, you are an endless spring of primal erotic energy – the energy of creation and boundless novelty. You also have deep reserves of inner peace and practical wisdom. The trick is to know yourself well enough to tap into these resources. Keep in mind this does not mean that you have to be a great sage or the star of the show in every circumstance. You can have weird compulsions and obsessions. You can have mood swings. You can be downright ignorant about many things. The key is to be genuine, authentic, "the real deal". Strive to be engage with your life and with the world. Let people know who you are – not by posting phony resumes in an effort to market yourself to prospective lovers, but by simply opening up to people and letting them know you. This comes with risk, but virtually all forms of growth or gain of any sort comes with some level of risk. If you succeed in becoming an authentic, interesting, loveable person, you will not have to find love; love will eventually find you.

By the way, I clicked on your Yahoo Answer profile, but there is no info about who you are. You could put something here. I'm not suggesting detailed personal info like your real name or address, but some general information that gives people a good intuitive sense of who you are. I would also suggest mentioning your general location (city, for example). Why? Suppose, just for fun, that I clicked on your profile and found that you live in the same city as me. If your profile and Q&As seem interesting, and if I see that you are not too far away, I might want to meet you. Does that seem scary? It shouldn't. If you are an interesting and lovable person, then people will want to meet you. This is good. With reasonable precautions, it is not terribly dangerous to meet people on the internet. I've met hundreds, including the woman who became my wife. If you really want to find love, don't hide from it.

Answer 4

elliRoberta,
Just quit trying so hard. Case in point: A young married couple try for 4 years to conceive....no luck. They go ahead and adopt a child and before the adoption is finalized she is aware that she is pregnant. WHY? Because they were trying too hard to make something happen. Lighten up! Take 10 steps backwards and punt (my father's law) ... Go to museums, movies etc...don't look at every person as a potential mate. Relax! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Offer a great smile, present a more positive attitude than pessimistic view, and enjoy the ride....believe me, nothing ever comes in the perfect package that you desire...sometimes you need to re-evaluate some of your own conceptions of what makes a great mate (i.e. love style, personality, political beliefs, etc.). You don't need to compromise your own beliefs but it's important to be flexible in this regard.

Answer 6

Hey there i was asking my self
This same question mnot to long ago untill Mr.Rigth fell right in my hands.
Sweetie you have to keep your self open
Try new things and approch the one you wouldnt normaly approtch if someone gives you a comment dont be sacastic smile and say thank you..

Love takes time
if you rush you will get someones sloppy seconds ]
REMEBER you want to be 1st in the relationship..

Thank you.

Answer 7

By simply showing love. Good-luck!

Answer 8

Stop looking. Love yourself first, and love will come to you.

Answer 9

Love your self and accept healing...then you will be pure love and draw that to you as well.......

Answer 10

you stop searching