My husband watches porn daily. He denies it but I know b/c I check behind him especially when I leave my home. He threw away all 148 movies (not an exaggeration) he had 3 months ago b/c he wanted to prove that he was not addicted to it. Now he watches it on tv or online and tries to hide that he watches it by deleting the history (which I can recover). Is this an addiction? And if you think it is, is it a sexual addiction? And yes we have great sex so that is not the reason why b/4 u ask.
2007-02-15 06:24:21 · 9 answers · asked by daprty1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It does sound like an addiction. He needs to get some help, and most of all he will need your love and support.
2007-02-15 06:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Addiction is an answer only the sufferer can answer. You cant fix him. Porn, in my experience, is about control. I get to pick the person, the situation, and there is no power like the one that shoots out the head of my penis. (sorry to be so explicit) It is also about fear. I have experience looking at porn obsessively when I am not wanting to live in reality, which has nothing to do with the woman I am involved with. It has to do with my immaturity. Maybe, if you are open to it, talk to him gently about looking at porn together while being intimate sexually with him. Maybe create your own porn with him. This is what has helped me with the obsessive porn watching: an open minded, non-judgemental partner. Again it is not a reflection of you at all!!!!
2007-02-15 06:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Surrendered 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is addicted, but if it is not causing a problem in your marriage, then I wouldn't stress about it so much - especially if you have a great relationship in that department. If it begins to replace what you have in the bedroom, then I would say you have a problem. It sounds like it is a problem because he is denying it and you are trying to find out if he is doing it. I think there are resources to help like sexual addicts anonymous or something. Worth looking into.
2007-02-15 06:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is addicted. And it is not normal, nor is it healthy. I would ask him this..."If the sex is sooo great with me...then why do you feel the need to look at porn?"
You should also ask him how the porn makes him feel afterword? I think you will be suprised by his answer.
2007-02-15 06:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllllll, it could be, but it doesn't sound unhealthy, you know? Especially if intimacy is great for the both of you. My guess is, he's into it because seriously he likes it fo rthe both of you and for typical male reasons, you know? If he's not doing anything in bad taste or being disrespectul about it, then I wouldn't worry. Ex: "Honey, why don't you wear something like that", or "why don't you ever want to try this"...kind of thing. Now, if he is, discuss with him, if not, I'd say everything sounds fine! Best wishes!
2007-02-15 06:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has an addiction to me and it seems that even though he has a great sex life he needs variety in it or you are living sith someone that is not an addiction but suffers from being a voyeur
2007-02-15 06:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by billc4u 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he's addicted and whose the sex great for you as well as he?maybe he's just a porn addict and if he likes what he's doing he will continue to do it.
2007-02-15 07:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes!
Sounds like an addiction to me!
2007-02-15 06:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes to watch porn so what, he is a man, why dont you try watching it with him maybe it would start a new level in you relationship
2007-02-15 06:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by jentn2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋