what can you do if people have done alot of things to you in your life?

Question

theyve attacked you mentally, physically, at various times in you life, by different people, at secondary school, bullying. later on, while living in flat on my own, victimised by gangs, attacked by youths..hit over the head in 1997 by three hooded youths, one carrying a wooden chair leg, split my head open. how do i get over the damage people have done to me? and the sheer amount of times its happened...self esteem destroyed..bullying throughout high school. they destroyed my confidence has resulted in me dealing with hellish mental health probs at 29, when i should be enjoying my life, with a nice girlfriend living in a nice home somewhere....how do i combat the eXtreme desire for revenge? the rage is still so alive and well within me....but if i let it stay, it will destroy my life, my hopes, my dreams....somebody please help

i just wanna overcome all this and achieve my dreams in life, i dont wanna hate, but it just feel like theyve damaged me and got away with it...i didnt fight back at the time, i was scared to, and i regret that. they put this rage and hate in me...ba**tards..i wanna fight back, i wish i woulda fought back back then to..

Answer 1

Your use of the word 'flat' instead of 'apartment' suggests that you live on the soggy island of Brittan. This fact unfortunately limits the options you have at your disposal to prevent yourself from being further victimized and assaulted, since England now prevents you from even carrying a pointed knife.

Had you lived in the United States, you would enjoy the rights enshrined in the Second Amendment and would have the ability to obtain the proper Concealed Carry Permits to allow you to carry a concealed handgun.

I have had such a permit since I was twenty one and always carry my Colt 1911 for my protection and the protection of other innocent people.

Several years ago, a group of Illegal Mexican Aliens, armed with pipes and knives, attempted to mug me with the clear intention of killing me once I had turned over my wallet. Instead, I drew my firearm and ordered them to surrender. Instead, they charged me and I shot two, killing one with a .45 round his forehead. The rest quickly surrendered and I held them until the police arrived.

Not only did I avoid becoming a victim of these animals, but I prevented one of them from ever victimizing any other people and likely provided the rest with a stern deterrent from ever doing so again.

In England, you could do little more then allow yourself to be victimized in this situation. I feel sorry for you.

Answer 2

Remember that revenge never ends, if you were to get revenge, someone else will in turn get revenge on you. It's a never ending cycle and that's why this world is so screwed up. Besides, the best revenge you can get is to let it go and forget about it. Some people are just mean, and we can't do anything about that, being mean in turn will only add fuel to their fire. For people who find pleasure in the suffering of others, the best way to get revenge is to not give them that pleasure. Don't let them be the cause of you suffering, if you do, they will have won. Accept what happened in your past and move on. If you really do want a new lifestyle, this is what has to take place. Dwelling on your past is the same as reliving it, and I know you don't want to relive those experiences. I had an extremely horrible adolescence, but I cried over it for six years, and I'm tired of crying over it. Just let them go, and look at who you can become, not who you were, because anything is possible.Don't waste your life living in the past. There is to much to live for and experience NOW. Don't let the good moments you desire pass you by. They are coming to you all the time, you just can't see them because you are too wrapped up in anger and self-pity.I am not downgrading you at all, I know how it is because I was there. Start to notice the good things you are drawing to you, and accept them, don't push them away anymore. The more you do this the closer you will be to living the kind of life you want.You obviously aren't happy where you are, so start to make some changes. When a choice comes your way, make the choice that will bring you the most happiness, that's all there is to it. But think closely about this. In my current situation, traveling the world and being a photographer would make me extremely happy, but I have 3 small children and 2 stepchildren at home who need me. My joy of being there for my children overrides my joy of traveling at the moment, so that is the choice I make. In everything, always move toward what will bring you the most joy, and the more you do this, the easier it will become. It takes time to get over all the crap in your past, it took me six years, but now life seems so simple. I still have many goals and desires, and I will acheive them eventually, but my life is right where I want it NOW. Don't look at the future, don't look at the past, look at NOW. What changes could you make NOW to make your life more the way you want it. This includes current jobs, current friends, current relationships, even music you listen to. Don't put yourself in the midst of something that is going to bring you down.Life is simple, and life is about experiences, don't let your life be filled with only regrets.Good luck!

Answer 3

Its going to take an awful lot for you to distrust what experience has shown you to be true. In every attack there grows a feeling that somehow either you deserve it or you could have ended it.
I hope you have sought professional people to help you with the damage that has been done to you, I would hate to let their anger continue to inflict harm to you. If you haven't then start today to end the attackers hold on you. Call your doctor or a mental health facility and get a recommendation to someone who can work with you to overcome your damaged self.

Answer 4

There are a few things that I REALLY regret. Such as the time I believed a bunch of lies this one HOE told me, and ended up losing one of my best friends because of it! I still regret it to this day, and I'm so mad that our amazing friendship was cut off because of some stupid drama loving female, & I hated myself for the longest time for allowing that to happen in the first place. I also regret shaving off half of my right eyebrow a few months ago. It never grew back right, LOL. The other things I regret are not very serious, and I'm happy about that. I do learn from my mistakes though. & I know that although I feel bad about some things... The fact that they HAPPENED is what allows me to be a stronger, wiser individual, and what makes me strive to be a better person than I was yesterday.

Answer 5

My husband was attacked at age 23 by men with hammers they bashed in his skull & left him to die To turn a long story short he survived after being in a coma 6 months he had to learn to talk & walk again If I am on the pity pot so be it Does he have rage no He is positive in constant pain & a swell guy If you think it is a pack of lies believe whatever you want I know its true

Answer 6

what goes around comes around!
it sounds like you've had a hard life. Me too actually. it drove me to the point of suicide attempts several times, but you know what? Those persons aren't even worth messing your life up for. Don't waste your time in them, period. What i did is i found something to turn that hate into something else. Like you can do karate, music lessons, or be a mentor to the younger ones that are going through tough times as yours. In the end, they will get their just reward, and i'm pretty damn sure it's gonna hurt more than they hurt you.

Answer 7

you need to turn this over to God and ask for guidance. You have to forgive although you can not forget. You can not give up. You may also want to look into self defense classes. You are over 21 apply for a hand gun carry permit for your protection. Revenge does not solve anything you may think it will make you feel better but you reep what you sow as in turning the other cheek. So forgive.

Answer 8

Being able to forgive someone and move one brings an amazing sense of relief and freedom. If you can move forward enough to do so, you will truly have discovered an amazing ability and your life will be different from then on.

Answer 9

practice zen look up soto zen and an articule by zen master Dogen called Fukanzazengi

zen is like pressing the reset button on your mind all your mental problems start to be released this part is different for everybody

so look up Soto Zen

Answer 10

Forgive them then forgive yourself for not doing so before. That how you do it. Because what happended to you probably happend to them and they took it out on you. See people don't see the everyday problems other people have. And frankly the dont care.