I'm college sr & grad. in May. I'm a white, 22 yo man. I grew up an army kid (until 10 when my dad walked out on us) & was always around tons of diff. people & cultures.But was NEVER SEEN AS A BAD "DIFFERENT." I want to date interracially(mainly African Americans), but my parents don't agree with it. They are racist, thinking that white m & white f should only date each other,etc (Everyone with their own race). I TOTALLY DISAGREE because I am not attracted by color nor do I stop liking someone/being attracted to someone because she just happens to be of another skin tone. I am heavily attracted to black and latin girls,white girls really don't do much for me. My mom says she don't care really. My stepdad is total opposite. He comments on people negatively who do & we have had arguments about it in the past. The thing is, I still live with them until May, but I wanna start now. What should I do? Go with my heart or wait a couple more months? I'm torn bc I am crushing on a few girls no
2007-02-15 06:17:59 · 11 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to go with your heart, and if need be tell your parents good bye for now. They may not agree, but if you have a good judge of character, then eventually they will come around. Remember, you have to live with this person, not them! They should respect you enough, to accept your decision on a future girlfriend or spouse. I date interracially, and my second daughter is mixed. My brother has been married twice, both to black women, and his second marriage is 14 years old. You need to be honest with the person you date, and let her know the family situation with your parents, about them being racist. Then it'll be her call as to if she wants to pursure the relationship. Interracial dating is hard when you have no family support. Sometimes, you need to live your life, and not the life your parents want.
Be honest, with her, be yourself, and be true to what you really want. God accepts us all, and loves us! As long as she loves you and you love her, your family should be happy.
2007-02-15 16:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by rcfsister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you can keep a discreet relationship somehow. It can work. Also, as far as race and race relationships, that's B.S. This is your life and you make decisions, remember you're not mommy's boy no more. Somehow, unconsciencely, you leave that period of time when all you do is rely on parents.
Now, your parents being racist, I think it's something every chlid who brings someone from another ethnicity into their house, that's what they'll face. Even if their parents say they aren't racist, this will prove to show how serious they are about their opinion.
Remember that a step dad isn't nothing of you, he doesn't carrie the same DNA you do. It's totally contradictory. There are occasions when you have to do something that might hurt the other, but it's for your good and you're not doing anything illegal or something which can be considered unlegitimate.
Remember the past, you don't want to be like your dad who walked on his children an wife. If marring someone form another race/ethnicity is going to keep you from doing a mistake like that, then do it. You feel good about it, it's for your good, and remember it's your decision.
2007-02-15 06:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Luis G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date who you want and explain to the girls what the deal is and you are moving in may which is around the corner.. If you end up serious with one of them they will find out anyway so be upfront so they know what they are getting into
2007-02-15 06:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22 and soon to be a college grad. You are old enough and smart enough to make your own decisions. Date whomever you want.
2007-02-15 06:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a senior in college and have syntax, orthography and lexicon that make me cringe. Forget all about dating anyone until you have moved out. Avoid all the grief and drama your whims can cause. Once you move out you will have the liberty to do as you choose.
2007-02-15 06:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Date them, keep it a secret to keep the peace till you move out, then be open about it, if step-racist-dad can't deal, you don't have to deal with him.
2007-02-15 06:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jessy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got stuckin the same sit. but it was religious sh*t... you can;t change your parents trust me and they're just going to have to learn to live with it.... im serious... theres not much u can do... theyll get to know the girl and maybe theyll be more open to it.... ur not a kid anymore...
2007-02-15 06:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushing on few girls? dang boy! why don't you find one very special girl (whatever color she happens to be) and then worry about introducing her to your parents.
2007-02-15 06:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life not theirs go with whom you want to.
2007-02-15 06:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your folks to suck my fat one im black and white and i turned out great and latina and european and asain chicks turn me on
2007-02-15 06:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋