Me and my wife are getting a divorce and this pain will not got away i still love her so much. I feel like this pain will be here forever. I know we cant work it out because she has personal issues, i feel so alone right now i cant eat or sleep.
2007-02-15 06:12:32 · 11 answers · asked by 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know it sounds trite but here's what I did in the same situation. First off, pray, there IS a GOD and he DOES hear us. But don't pray for what you think you want or need, just pray for him to give you what is best for you. Again, I know this sounds like a very simple answer but try it PLEASE. I went from total despair to a new wife PLUS a baby boy in less than a year. GOD knows what you need before you even ask it, its just that you have to open the door and invite him in. Please try it.
2007-02-15 06:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by anothersomeonenew 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's never easy when we give ourselves to another and then lose them...we do indeed lose a portion of self.
Truly, the pain may never go away. You may move on with your life-- but the time together will always be a part of you. At times it will sadden you to know that something that held so much promise ended.
I am an advocate of couples doing everything in their combined power to work it out. If you haven't had counseling-go. If you haven't prayed-try. If you need to hash it out-do it. She may have issues, but isn't that what you both signed up to do? Work through it? Be there for better or for worse? There aren't too many folks that will stick it out through 'the worse'. There is an organization called rejoice ministries, google it to find out if there is a way to save your marriage.
Hoping all the best for you....
2007-02-15 06:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can feel your pain. I know what it's like not to be able to eat or sleep. No, the hurt may never completely heal, but you can come to a point where it's not all encompassing. It does take time and you will have good and bad days. If you love her as much as you say, then let her go if it's what she truly wants. In time , you may be able to come to a point where you are closer as divorced friends than you were as a married couple. You can heal. The way you choose to do that is up to you.
2007-02-15 06:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by shameless4ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my ex and I were divorced, I thought the pain would never go away. I tried staying in bed, to keep from hurting, but still the pain was there, day and night. I thought I would die in pain and couldn't imagine ever feeling any other way. I was resigned to it, prepared to suffer for the rest of my life. But then one day I woke up and it was gone. I don't know what happened, it was just gone. I spent that day waiting for it's return, thinking I was only getting a few moments of relief; but no, the pain was actually gone and I was able to move on. I still loved this person, but those feelings went deep into my past, where they belong and where they no longer cause me pain.
Over time, your pain will go away like mine did. Doesn't mean you'll stop loving your wife, but your love will drift into the past, and you'll be able to get on with your life. Don't try to stop loving her, because that won't work. Just take it one day at a time. One day, you'll wake up and find it gone. Your love for her will rest in your past and you'll be able to breathe again.
2007-02-15 06:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that the only advice to take is to take it one day at a time by not getting into another relationship right now and see a counselor to help you out good luck things will get better for you.
2007-02-15 06:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the hurt will go away. The trick is not to think about it. Build a life of your own. Go out and do things. You will not want to at first, but it helps. Been there, done that.
2007-02-15 06:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it will never completely go away but it will certainly diminish with time and if you come to accept it it will be easier. If you regret it and dwell on the past you will always hang on to it, even if a little and this won't allow you to fully move forward. For your sake learn to let it go.
2007-02-15 06:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it'll subside, it'll just take time.
2007-02-15 06:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will,.keep busy
2007-02-15 06:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋