I have been married for a while and we have a child. What should I do if my wife refuses to help with the daily chores, cleaning, cooking, yardwork, ETC???
2007-02-15 06:11:50 · 11 answers · asked by telerobster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
our daughter is 10 and helps me with the kitchen and bathrooms, and she works as a retail clerk in the morning, and I manage a wholesale business (10 to 14 hours a day)
2007-02-15 06:19:26 · update #1
laundry - clean only your own and your child's.
dishes - clean only your own and your child's.
cooking - cook only for yourself and your child.
bathroom - clean only your area.
Our son had this problem and that was how he fixed it.
He kept a handle on the finances so she could not just go
out and buy new clothes to get out of cleaning her dirty ones.
He let every area in their home and car where she was at just pile up around her but he would not allow her into his areas.
Our daughter n law finally began doing her part.
Or hire a maid.
2007-02-15 06:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a job outside the home? If she does then the housework should be 50/50 including the cooking and yardwork. If she is home all day and has one child, then she should be doing 90% of housework and have dinner ready and then maybe both of you clean it up so you can both relax and enjoy the evening together. The yardwork and trash should be something a husband would insist on doing, so his wife wouldn't have to do that, but the wife should do all the rest if she is home all day with one child.
I am home all day, homeschool my daughter, have a home daycare in home, do all the cooking, cleaning, bills, and help with the yardwork, because I love to be outside, help with trash when needed (bring in trash cans, or take out if needed). Do all school related things for my son who goes to public school, volunteer for school. My husband works 60 + hrs. a week, comes home to a homecooked meal, I clean up the mess or he helps if he wants. We then can relax together the rest of the night. I have all the housework done by the weekend and groc. shopping, so we don't have to fool with it on the weekends. He worked 14 hrs. yesterday and we had 12 in. of snow, with ice on top. Me and our daughter went out for hours shoveling the driveway so he wouldn't have to do it when he got home. All he had to do was come home, eat and relax. That's just how I am. I know women who wouldn't dare work or lift a finger and insist their husbands work extra hours or another job to make the ends meet and then complain because they can't seem to keep up with the kids or housework.
2007-02-15 06:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She works part time, so she should be the one doing all of the chores. Tell her to get off of her lazy *** and do something. She sounds like a selfish feminazi and you need to put your foot down and tell her what's up.
I'm sorry you married someone like this. I feel bad for the men out there who's wives treat them like second class citizens and think that their husbands should cater to their every need. I'm sorry she doesn't do anything around the house, even though it's her job.
I suggest you talk to her and tell her the cold, hard truth. It might be a wake up call to her. She needs to get off the couch and do something since you're stuck with 14 hour days being the provider for your family.
2007-02-15 06:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you must have known this about her before you got married. If this is the way she was and you accepted her that way, you can't really do much about it now. Does she work? If she doesn't work and doesn't do anything around the house I'd have a fit. My ex husband never did anything around the house so I tried going on strike and didn't do the laundry and didn't clean but he didn't mind living that way and it drove me nuts so eventually I caved and went back to doing all the housework.
Maybe hire someone to help around the house.
2007-02-15 06:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand - who does she expect to do all the work - you. Does she work outside the home? Do you? The only way I would expect my husband to do all the work would be if I worked and he didn't. I think if she refused to help you might need some serious marital counseling- or else hire some help. Tell her that this will seriously effect your budget and she might not have any extra money to do the stuff she wants to
2007-02-15 06:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire the hottest maid possible. Oh yes, it works.
Seriously though, talk to your wife, be nice the first time. Tell her how you feel, and you want things to change.
If she is stubborn, then tell her that things have to change...and that there needs to be some compromise...or the marriage isn't working. If she loves you and cares about your marriage, she will try...if not....sorry bro.
2007-02-15 06:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have her talk to her Doctor. Besides the obvious answers being, she lazy, or what have you, she could be depressed which is treatable with medication and therapy.
2007-02-15 06:18:28 · answer #7 · answered by flowerchild1779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancel your internet and cable / sattelite television services.
2007-02-15 06:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a gardener and a maid, and love your wife for what she does do, not what she doesn't do.
2007-02-15 06:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hire some help...
She must be busy with your son all day...
;)
2007-02-15 06:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋