For the last six or so months my wife & I have be separated, she is no longer happy within our marrige. She has told me she is no longer in love with me and does not want me are the marriage. But last night she rip me a new one because all I gave her "The woman that gave birth to our children" her words, was a card for Valentine's Day. I never wanted the divorce I tried so hard to do what ever to keep our marrige together, but now I don't get what's going on because she is really upset & mad @ me about this. What gives?
2007-02-15 06:04:25 · 19 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mr. JW is a bitter idiot and hates womann because they know he is just that!!!! So far as your wife I think she is confused and days like Valentines add too the confusion of what she wants and feels.
2007-02-15 11:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Completly in love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is the typical women of today. Write her off as the selfish *** that she is. She thinks she is a princess, deserving of all that she hopes for, dreams about, no matter how she treats her subjects. She is even pointing out to you just what I contend here, and very openly.
She walked out, doesnt want to be bound by her commitment to God, you, the child, which she freely made. Yet she thinks because she simply gave birth, she is entitled to the world. She believes like most women, that simply because they had sex or birthed a child, they somehow did you a service, gave you a gift, etc. Never do they realize that we have just as much to do with the baby being made as they do. They work it both ways Sir. When it benefits them, they did a noble deed and suffered for all man kind. When it benefits you, you are nothing more then the fertilizer and a check.
Your wife has bought into the politically correct feminist crap of today. There isnt anything you can do. If she cant completely emasculate you, she wont want you. If she can, she still wont want you.
Now, I understand that you dont want the divorce. But she doesnt care what you want, like, need. She doesnt care about what she promised or vowed to do. She only cares about what she wants and what will get her what she wants. She is the typical selfish women. Face that fact. Face that you are getting divorced and their isnt anything short of you winning the lottery that you can or will do to change that.
You had better start worrying about protecting yourself and your well being and forget trying to work it out. Start seeing her for what she is and in the light as she sees you. To her, you are the enemy. You had better take that same view of her too, or you will regret it later. Be realistic, she isnt going to work it out. You listen to the women on here and all you will get is how you must have deserved this or that she has good reason or whatever. Whatever they have to say to excuse her is what they will say and think. Trust me, had the roles been reversed, you would be unfit to breath air or shovel crap according to them.
Dude, www.nomarriage.com has some information that might help you protect yourself. I suggest that you visit that site. You might be glad that you did. You are a victim. Dont assist or help this woman in making you more of one.
2007-02-15 14:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. JW 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She is very confused and most of us woman are... Talk to her and tell her how you feel how much you love her and was just trying to give her space and you thought she would not like a gift from you so you bought a card in hopes that might be OK.. Worth a try.. Then if all goes well take her out to dinner start over and hey maybe you'll get some in the end..LOL GOOD LUCK
2007-02-15 14:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good lord I wish I knew. I would have hoped for more than a card myself, but considering the circumstances it seems like she is expecting a bit much when she doesn't even want to continue a marriage with you.
Maybe she has been hoping for more attention from you all along. I don't know. You kind of need more info on why this marriage wasn't working for her to really get this one.
2007-02-15 14:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now it's time for you to rip her a new one. Explain to her that she said out of her own mouth she does'nt want to be with you, so why in the hell should it matter if you choose to get a valentines gift or not? I believe that you were bieng nice just by giving the woman who gave birth to your child a card. What does she expect ? a diamond ring.
If she don't want to be with you, than why is she expecting anything ?
2007-02-15 14:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mahogany 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has some persoanl issues that she expects you to be held accountable for...
I think that if you have tried counseling...and it didn't work, then she is out there....
Heck...all I got from my husband was a card....and I appreciate the heck out of that....
I guess you have to make a decision of whether or not you are going to continue to pacify her needs.....because you could spend the rest of your life trying to validate her...when the problem is something that you could never fix anyway....
But, if you haven't tried counseling...then I suggest that you do....it could help get to the bottom of the situation...because there is no telling where the problems that she has come from....or how she takes the way you express your love to her....
But, the issue is surely deeper than her falling out over everything...
2007-02-15 14:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did SHE gave you?
Unfortunatley, valentine's day is the day when women measure the quality of their relationship on one stupid day that means nothing and only benefits the merchants.
Valentine's day is EVERY day. If you treated each other like crap all year, one stupid day is not going to fix your marriage or save your relationship.
I'm with you. I believe that you were FAR too kind to even give her a card even though she has stated that she doesn;t want to be married o you anymore.
Good luck
2007-02-15 14:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has forgotten all the ingredients that goes in the cake. She has no right to be mad at you. You didn't have to get her a card.
Did you ask her where was your valentine's card? You should've said I didn't get anything from you, I never wanted the divorce, and I'm still a caring man.
2007-02-15 14:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is trying to let go but you wont let her, i understand that you still want to be with her but you need to step back and let her see if being without you is what she really wants, if it's not what she wants then she will come back but you need to give her time and space just as you feel about she will always have you in her heart you are the father of her children no matter what she will be there for you and knows you would do the same for her so just give some time and some space.
2007-02-15 14:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by jentn2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking she is lucky to have gotten the card. It is sad that you have kids invovled in this, otherwise I would just say bid her farewell and move on without the drama. If you want to stay with her it is worth talking with her about why she got upset. I would suggest a third party be present, like a minister or therapist. That might lead her to look at herself and her own feelings. If she finds that she wants to work on your marriage find a therapist for both of you.
2007-02-15 14:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋