My wife smells really bad when she is sexually turned on. How can I teIl her without hurting her feelings?

Question

I can't do oral & i even get soft when the smell is too bad. it is really affecting our sex life, but she doesn't seem to notice the smell.

Answer 1

Whatever you do, be kind and gentle when you tell her. She may need to see a doctor because yeast infections can make her smell bad.

Answer 2

Has this always been the case? If not, she may have some kind of infection and should go to a doctor immediately. Tell her that you've noticed a very strong odor coming from her and you're concerned that it might be a sign of a health issue. Ask her to make an appointment with her physician and go with her. If she's always been this way, then you may have to get creative in your love-making (standing up, in the shower, in the tub, basically putting yourself near soap and water and away from her genitals).

I think she may have an infection, so make the appointment as soon as possible. I would probably avoid sex until you know what's going on. Men can contract things like yeast infections from infected women, so be careful.

If you approach this from the standpoint of being concerned about her health, you shouldn't have a problem.

Answer 3

Does this only occur when she is turned on? There is a sexual response by the adrenals which can sometimes emit a strong smell (cortisol). It can occur in the mouth as well. Ironically, if she is also emitting this from her mouth, then she may believe it's coming from YOU! If it only happens when she's turned on, she may believe you are the source.

It's a very strong smell based off of adrenaline, very similar to the adrenaline/fear scent, but even stronger.

If this is the case, there is not much you can do to change her bodily chemistry. You could try putting Vicks under your nose or other tricks like that, I guess. :) On a positive note, you know for sure she is very sexually aroused by you. That has to be satisfying in its own right. Many husbands aren't so lucky!

Answer 4

How do you smell-like vanilla ice cream? I think I've heard of you! No really, there's no way to tell her that without causing bad feelings, so, have a shared shower or bath as a prelude to sex, and make a game of washing each other thoroughly. If the smell is bad after that, ask your doctor when you are there alone, then he'll have a heads up when she comes for for her next examination. Or tell her you are itchy "down there" and ask her to go to the doctor with you (after you've spoken to him) and both be tested for allergens.

Answer 5

Sorry there is no way to tell her without hurting her feelings. Be as gentle as possible and ask her if maybe she could ask her doctor if it is just her normal smell or if there is a problem. If it's an infection or something they should be able to cure it and if it's just how she smells then maybe they can make other suggestions to help.

Answer 6

Don't disregard this issue....See a DR.......if you smell it then she does too..... Some woman (I haven't heard of many) supposedly have this problem...........You really need to address this .......... when was her last Gyno appointment? These should be done yearly at the least. Bring it up by asking about her Gyno appointment tell her you've been seeing a lot on tv about Ovarian cancer & that she should really have this checked. This will at least get her to the doctor just to make sure nothing else is wrong. Tell her to have a full check up............ this should work without mentioning the real problem...if all else fails - stock up on flavored lubricants..........

Answer 7

I think you need to tell your wife the truth. She may have an infection. Is she keeping herself clean? I'm not being funny, but sometimes women don't know how to keep that area clear of odors. She may not be douching properly, or she may be using the wrong soap. Does she use bath powders in that area? That may be the problem. Again, it may be a bladder or urine infection that's causing the odor. Tell your wife and hopefully you guys can work this out. Best wishes.

Answer 8

My suggestion is you should look into her diet. Some of the things we eat come out through our vaginas. I read an article a long time ago about that. You can suggest different meals to her rather than mentioning that she stinks down there. Maybe she needs to take something like niacin pills to flush out her system. Does she drink water? If none of these things work you may have to bite the bullet and tell her to see a doctor. Let her know you'll go with her and help. In the end she will be the one who wins, you may never get enough of eating her out. Try some mangoes. I hope it helps.

Answer 9

Tell her that she should go see a doctor. It could even be something more serious than yeast infections. I'm sure she notices the smell, but feels embarassed to say anything. Maybe she thinks if she does say something, she'll think that you'll think differently of her. Better to tell her, than to let it get worse and be at a higher risk to disease. Plus, you gotta look out for yourself too!

Answer 10

A lot of women suffer from Vaginosis.. It is a bacterial infection that can cause her to smell it can be treated.. If you have a close relationship then you should have no secrets. You would want the same in return.. Just be supportive and go to the doctors with her...

Answer 11

This could mean so many things. She could have a chronic infection and not even realize it. If so, she needs to get to a doctor or it could turn into pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) and destroy her ability to have children in the future among other problems. Or, you might be sensitive to those kinds of odors, they are an acquired taste. If it's so bad it's affecting your sex life, you might try to "get" it in the shower, or try to get her right when she gets out of the shower to help. Hopefully you will get it worked out somehow for your marriage sake. Take care and good luck.