I am a married heterosexual male.I am not racist,bigoted,or homophobic.I am tolerant and genuinely get along with most everyone.I find talking to homosexuals interesting.Some of my friends are gay and I love them the same as my straight friends.I have been to gay bars and I also find them fascinating.As a gay person,do you see me as demeaning to you because I enjoy your differences and mannerisms?
2007-02-15 05:55:54 · 14 answers · asked by zeus2quincy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
O.k.,I vote Democratic and I have no problem with same sex marriage. I am now an ally!!
2007-02-15 07:16:10 · update #1
What do you mean by mannerisms? Perhaps most of your acquaintances have some so-called 'mannerisms,' but most gay men don't have any discernible mannerisms -- this is a stereotype.
So yes, you are being demeaning, if you state that gay people as a class have 'mannerisms.' Maybe you need to vary the type of gay bars you go to. Some cater only to queeny guys, and you probably got the wrong idea there, or by watching too much TV.
2007-02-15 06:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not necessarily... I'd rather be a person of interest than a wallflower any day. Actually, your attitude is welcome in a community where finger-pointing and ridicule run rampant. Just don't be offended if SOME gay people see your interest as a type of voyeurism, or feel as if they are your "entertainment." Years ago, straight people were made to feel unwelcome in gay bars but that does not seem to be the case any longer. A bar is, after all, a public place. When I want to be with gay people and (gay people only), I host the party in my home, by invitation only! Seems pretty simple to me! Have a great day!
Kabum
2007-02-15 14:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by kabum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are filming wildlife or something. I find those gay people FASCINATING! LOOK AT THE WAY THEY MOVE AND INTERACT WITH ONE ANOTHER. GAY PEOPLE ARE JUST EXTRODINARY. So yes it can be condescending and frankly a little weird but I would take you over some frothy mouth scary bigot from Arkansas any day.
2007-02-15 14:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all - there are too many people out there that are not open and willing to get along with everyone. If everyone felt like you did, gay people would have no fear of being out and would just be another person on the street. Thanks for being who you are and not being afraid to say it publicly! You can play on my ball team any day!
2007-02-15 15:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Brent W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well up until your last statement, I had no problem with you at all.
BUT The fact that you do see us as different through our "mannerisms" bothers me. I find it demeaning and hypocritical for anyone to say they like me or those like me because of a "mannerism."
That's like a right handed person saying they like left handed people because they do things backwards.
There's nothing backwards to being gay, or left handed for that matter.
Its simply different from you, but it's perfectly NORMAL for us.
What ever happened to liking a person for being a good person?
2007-02-15 14:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not at all -- I've always taken all my straight friends with me to gay clubs, services, whatever. I've even danced with straight friends many times. I went with a particularly close group of them, many years ago, to a straight dance club - but unfortunately one of the straight dance bois tried to stab me (no I'm not kidding, I was wearing a pink triangle pin, he knew what it meant, he thought his girl would think it was cool if he "bagged a fag") so after that, we only went to gay clubs. I love my friends, they love me -- oh, and just for the record I make a mean stew, bake a mean brownie and can make real hot chocolate. Our (my partner and I) house is a clean house and our crowd always holds game nights at our place because I cook -- their kids have teethed on our bookcases and thrown up on our rugs -- and I wouldn't trade all my straight friends for the world.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-02-15 16:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't mind you in the slightest. You are polite and haven't pushed your life or your religion or anything on us. Tell us you vote Democratic and pro marriage equality and you'll be a community ally.
2007-02-15 14:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, not at all it shows to me , you have a open mind, a willing to accept people for who they are, regardless of their personal preference...
i am happlily married almost 20 years, i have a nephew who is gay and we do have gay friends, we treat them as people, thats it, they know we are straight, and do not push views on us, as we do not push our views on them, BUT i have come across bigotry in regards to even being friends with someone who is gay.
it comes down to respect for your fellow man/woman,. if we closed our eyes to all differences in this world we would never know the joy of life and all it has to offer..
why see only the rose if there are other flowers to see
2007-02-15 14:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by dragonfly2dreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in the least. I find your type of person fun to be around and enlightened. A good type of person to be friends with for along time.
You are a good apple Charlie Brown!
2007-02-15 14:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not gay and it's cool to educate yourself with your friends lifestyles. I don't think they would be offended at all. It's really cool to see a straight man open-minded enough to see what is going on in his friends lives. Kudos to you.
2007-02-15 14:05:03 · answer #10 · answered by moonlightdriver1313 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋