I have been saving a little money every month and putting it in a saving account that my husband don't know about, now my girlfriend said it's wrong because it's his money that he worked for.. but he gives me money all the time and i don't spent it i save it.. hey my dad left my mom after 18 years and she had no savings so i think everyone should have something put up, what about you..
2007-02-15 05:48:07 · 26 answers · asked by ladytee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Rkrell. how do u know your wife don't have a secert account?? I bet she do.
2007-02-15 05:57:49 · update #1
cthdunn, your a dum *****, why would not want ever woman to protect themself, nothing is written in stone..and who says he don't have a secert account.. what do your future hold?? it's my money and i'm hiding it. mad cause your not smart like me.
2007-02-15 06:05:46 · update #2
Notes from my mom:
1. The man you marry is the most imp. dec. you will ever make. Choose wisely
2. Never have children until your marriage is solid. Children are traumatic, and can destroy anything, even a marriage.
3. Finish your education... You may be supporting children and yourself some day... and for sure, you will indeed work sometime during your marriage, maybe for decades, get paid for it. A marriage license isn't a life-time meal ticket.
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about, even if you think you will never need it. You will, and the more the better.
Right on, hon. My mom would be proud of you
2007-02-15 06:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Would it be ok if you found out he had a secret bank account? Do you get mad when you find out he's had a secret from you? If it's ok for him to also have secrets, then it's ok. It's a two way street. I can understand your fear, because of what happened to your mom. You're smart to learn from what happened to her. Saving is very good but is there a reason you can't tell him about it? Do you not trust him or do you think he'd try to take it or spend it? Just think how much you could save together. But that brings us back to the fact that you're saving in case he leaves you! That's kinda a sad way to live, always thinking he may leave you and you'd better have some savings. I hope you don't always live with this fear hanging over your head. He does give it to you so I guess you can do with it what you want, but be prepared in case he finds out! He may take it really wrong and be pissed!
2007-02-15 06:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never know what the future holds, I think you are doing a good thing. I just got married and I have a saving account. You have to be prepared in-case something happens, Like Divorce!
2007-02-15 05:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's a small amount at a time from time to time, I don't see one thing wrong with it. It brings to mind an old Love Boat episode where the wife saved money throughout their whole marriage and they took a trip on the Love boat where she told him what she had done all those years. He was mad at first but then he started to enjoy the time together. Who knows, you may be saving for a 50th honeymoon. We can all hope for you.
2007-02-15 06:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with it. I think its a great idea for women to save a little money on the side. With all the cheating husbands we hear about, ya can`t be to careful. Protect Yourself!
2007-02-15 06:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am on the fence about that I guess.....I mean if he literally gives it to you then you can do what you want with it. So - in that case it's not wrong - but you are keeping it a secret - lying by omission? On the other hand - it should be joint savings - for my husband and I we do that. I would think it strange if he had his own account and I didn't know about it. It sounds like you are preparing yourself for something that MAY happen???? What message does that send to your hubby?
2007-02-15 06:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U both should have your own savings account and there is no need to be sneeky. You should have responsibilities to who pays what and how much and then if you choose to have an acct to share savings then fine but always have your own nest egg, just in case someone has to leave the nest.
No need to be azz out!
2007-02-15 05:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Charisma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. You know it is wrong or you wouldn't be keeping it hidden. What you are doing besides is basically planning for your relationship to eventually fail. By doing this you are already creating the first cracks in a solid marriage. My wife has her own account but I know about it. It is her choice if she spends the money or saves it for the future.
2007-02-15 05:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No it is not, I think all women should be able to have the funds to get out of a relationship in case it breaks down...
You have to be in a relationship for love not out of financial necessity...
A lot of woman stay in miserable relationships because they do not have the financial capacity to leave. Both the husband and wife have to be independent of each other...
2007-02-15 12:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's wrong. It sounds like you don't trust your husband or you are trying to hide something from him. He's giving you money because I guess he feels you need it for spending or buying something. In a way, I see this as being dishonest. Why not just tell him you have your own account?
2007-02-15 05:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋