Do parents actually think that grounding their children, exspecialy teenagers works?

Question

I, as a teenager, nearly 18, don't think that grounding works. It makes me spiteful and has never changedmein the least. I recently read a resed question that asked if they thought grounding their children to his/her rooms when hsher grade fell below a C. This idea seems ridiculous to me because I know that I've taken classes to push me, to make me think, and i certainly knew I wouldn't be getting any sort of A in that class. I did end up with D+ and i was happy because on paper it said that I hadn't learned squat but I knew, personally that I took more in that class than any class I have ever taken. My mom understood this, and she didn't ground me. And yes, she normally would ground me if I did have B- or worst. I us want to hera some reasoning behind this. Somehow it just makes more sense to me to give them a list of chores to doit with them while thye do thier homework, or at least to check on them than go online and only see the paper that shows nothing.

Please, don't call me spoiled. I'v helped my mother raise my two sisters since they were two years old. They are now five years old. And I bust my butt at my job. I don't get grounded very often, and I'm not whinging in the least. I just don't understand why you (parents) think it works. I've tried discussing this with my mom, but she isn't really one for talking, she's a yeller. So ... since I can't get a solid answer from her, I'm reaching out by her means. And btw, my spelling and grammar seemed so poor before because I was in a rush to get to my doctor and my keyboard is a POS. I'm surprised by how quickly some of you judge.

Answer 1

I'm with you, grounding does not help.
My kids get chores. big chores not too often
and they really do help around the house a lot
anyway.
At least with chores they have a sense of self worth at the end. Instead of feeling like a prisoner.

Answer 2

Well, the reason parents ground their kids is because some idiot thought it was a great idea to make it illegal to spank your child. Teenager calls you foul names and you smack them in the teeth, like they rightfully deserve, the kid then claims child abuse. So, it's a no win situation for both the parent and the teenager. The parent has no control, because it was legally taken away, and the teenager doesn't learn consequences for their idiotic actions. And they wonder why the prisons are over populated. I find that hilarious. It's the so called "do gooders fault." Back in the day, you wouldn't have even thought of pulling half the crap these kids do these days. If you did, mom or dad would have had a big surprise for you when you got home. It's called a whooping!

Answer 3

My parents grounded me even if I made A's.. If the teacher's comment with the grade was anything less than "Does great work" or "Great student". My parents demanded excellance from me. It seems rediculas but in all honesty if you didn't make an A chances are you didn't take enough time to study the curriculum or pay attention in class. Listen, High school is a popularity contest.. When I was in school I was caught up in it.. I didn't do my absolute best and I hated my parents for restricting me from doing things outside of school or taking away the tv, video games, etc. Truth is now that i've grown older I have a better understanding of what I should have been doing and I regret never listening to them. Problem with teenagers is that they start thinking for themselves and think they know everything and they don't believe they have to rely on their parents anymore. But truth is the majority still need guidance and when given it they refuse it because of their own arrogance.

Answer 4

I don't think it works. Maybe if they get in trouble at a party then they can't go to another for a week or whatever but thats it. I think it just puts a bigger cummunication gap on parents and kids. I agree with the chores thing. And on the grades thing. I wouldn't ground my kid for a bad grade, unless they didn't do good on purpose, didn't study, etc.

Answer 5

i strongly agree, my parents never grounded me. i hae a few things to say on the matter
one, i didnt get grounded but i was punished somtimes, if i got in one really big trouble it was more effective than a long time of "no movies, no tv, no games, etc" becasue i had made one big mistake so i needed one punishment.
second, kids at school were "cool" when they were grounded becasue they just snuck out. parents never knew and it made the did look like a daredevil. it had such an opposite effect.
third, punishing somone for grades (grounding) never works. jsut regualte how much they study adn reward them for the studing, not telling somone to study adn then say "no you cannot go to the movies!" that has such an opposite effect!

Answer 6

I don't know what you are talking about. I am 20 and I was grounded when I lived at home and it worked! I think it really depends on how consistant your parents are.

Answer 7

exciting question. It relies upon on my age yet for the main area spanking. My mom worked lots so the grounding didnt do lots yet what she would self-discipline me via removing specific priviledges, you comprehend, those i truthfully enjoyed. She would cut back my curfew or no longer enable me to flow someplace i truthfully had to flow. truthfully, those reactions felt worse than spankings.

Answer 8

i think that grounding only makes the parent feel good because the teenager could care less about the situation

Answer 9

I guess we should just let our kids fail school and just do whatever they want to with no consequences, huh, parents? Hah! As long as my daughter does her best, I don't ground her. If she needs help, I help her.

Answer 10

I don't agree that it works. I think hitting your kids works a lot better because it tells the kids that if they don't listen to their parents that they will get hit so they mind better.