My ex husband was the first man in my life. We had to get divorce coz, I can not accept arrange marriage and i did it just to please my dad. But i was heart broken because i believe in marriage that last a lifetime with someone you love. Now i cant seem to trust man and i dont feel its fair. When i get into a serious relationship i start to falling in-love with someone i just leave and i feel really bad. I am so scared to make another mistake.
2007-02-15 05:22:06 · 9 answers · asked by loka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately there are no guarantees in life or in relationships. You need to accept that there is always a risk involved when it comes to falling in love and that risk will always exists because you can't control life. We all mistakes, the key is to realize that if you do the best you can and the relationship fails then it isn't so much of a mistake as a learning experience. Remember, it is better to love and have lost than to never have loved at all. Right now you are denying yourself any chance to ever really be in love so face your fears, do your best, and give love a chance.
2007-02-15 05:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's not necessary to forget but rather to move on with your life. It's not always easy. I know what you mean about seeming not to be able to trust men. We tend to be more suspicious and expect them to trip up and the minute they get out of line we shoot out of there like a bullet. How to deal with it? The answer isn't simple since we are all different. Counselling may probably help but you need to examine yourself and find out why exactly you cannot trust and make a conscious effort to work on that particular issue.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-15 13:34:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dream Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all a marrage is for a lifetime! you should have never married him in the first place but since you did your obligations are to him till death, divorce is a man made rule not a Godly ot Biblical rule. Go back to the husband and make it work, after all you did vow till death do us part.
2007-02-15 13:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by BBKK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Need to make any Mistakes!
Spend time and Effort getting to know Your Man before committing for life!!
2007-02-15 13:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sucks your going to make another mistake you will make about 100 more in your life time at least so make a mistake intentionally see what happends
How did you handle it? Did you flip out? if so then keep makeing mistakes it's not the mistake you make it's how you handle it
here is a site that will help you
coping.org
2007-02-15 13:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and ask God to help you. You must feel that you have failed, but you must repent, ask God for forgiveness if you haven't already and also forgive yourself. besides the arranged marriage, did you have a good husband? I'm pretty sure you know what the bible says about divorce, but what's done is done...Ask God to help you move on, and for restoration.
2007-02-15 13:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past was not your choice and your intuition was right; you did it to please your dad, which was awful thing to do in marriage.
Any choice of your own would be YOUR choice which must be reached after a period of time. Falling in love is not easily controllable; it comes when you have the feelings for someone which you cannot feel for others.
I wish you the best in YOUR choice.
All the best!/
2007-02-15 13:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should speak to a counselor about your trust issue. This is something you'll need to work through before you'll be able to have a successful and happy relationship with someone else.
2007-02-15 13:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so if youre in love with someone who treats you well, just take it day by day. hang in there peace
2007-02-15 13:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋