Is it a good idea?

Question

i am 17 yrs old but in college i am madly in love with my boyfriend of 2yrs i want to have a baby with him is that a good idea? When he says he is in love with me and we live together.

Answer 1

Being madly in love and living together won't pay your bills or take care of your baby at 2am. Give yourself more time and growing up before taking on the joy and responsibility of parenting.

Answer 2

Since you are not even 18 (as in you're still a minor child in the eyes of the law) and you have JUST started seeing some new things in the world and are in a position (as a college graduate) to see a lot more of it, why on earth would you want to become a parent right now?

Motherhood is forever - it is incredibly hard work with very little sleep and a lot of messes to clean up. It is a great thing to do but not when you are so young. What if boyfriend turns out to be a bum who cannot hold a job? He leaves you and cannot pay support? Youo won't have the opportunity to finish college and will be limited to the types of job opportunities available to you (and therefor the income potential you will have).

Why not finish college first - get a job first - here's a novel idea: get married first.

Then think about becoming a mom.

Good luck

Answer 3

U should always talk to ur partner first what does he think on the matter? Also if u are in college and so young (I say it this beacuse I was a young mom of twins at 16) it is DIFFICULT as is to be a mom but while in school too; very hard. Dont get me wrong it can be done I went to college too but it was a long harsh road. Since you have a choice I think u shoudl think about it very carefully and remember that u can always start a family after u have a way good way to support urself and ur child alone if need be. I tell everyone that ask me this question the following: The final choice is urs of course but if u still have a choice in the matter postponement doesnt mean never and if u should become pregnant remember it still can be done u just gotta have alot of will and coffee. good luck on ur decision

Answer 4

Well I personally would wait till you are done with college and maybe even married. I had my daughter at 18 and I love her to pieces but having a child will take up a lot of your time...ie college. It can of course be done but why juggle it all if you don't have to. Also how commited are the two of you? It takes a lot to raise a baby and it will be easier if you know he will be there too. There is no rush honey you have tons of time to have a baby. Also try finding a family member, friend, or babysitting someone who has a baby. It can help give you a better idea if you can handle it all. Good luck girl!

Answer 5

For goodness sake, you are 17 and still in school. WAIT! There is plenty of time. Live with the guy for a while if that is what you want. You are still really young (even if you don't feel like it). You have lots to experience yet and you don't want a child to tie you down. Their great when you are older, more mature (trust me) and have a stable job and a career started. (If that is what you want). Travel, live, spend money on yourself. Learn about yourself some more. You will have another 10 years before you need to start thinking about kids. HAVE SOME FUN! I'm 33 and just having my second. They (kids) are a lot of work (fun, yes, but expensive, time consuming and well worth the WAIT!).

Answer 6

if you really want to have a baby so badly, ask yourself some really important questions first like:
- how would you provide for it? (you are working now, but what do you plan to do afterwards?)
- do you have career goals? (is your job just a job, or do you hope to go to school for a career)
- Do you care if the father is in your and the baby's life? (sadly, many young dads end up leaving early, and don't stay too involved) If not, how do you plan on doing it alone? Do you have supports set up and in place?
- Could you give up almost every ounce of privacy and time to yourself that you have? (a baby is VERY demanding, time consuming and even frustrating at times. It is no longer about you, what you want, when you want, your schedule. Your baby is your new boss, and you have to shape your entire life around that)

You ARE still young, and yes, you are put on this earth for a reason and if you feel that it is to procreate, I think that's excellent. But there is alot of time to do that. Experience your life, enjoy your teenage years, have some fun, meet some guys, fall in love, but don't rely only on how mature you think you are to make this decision.

I'm not saying you'd be a bad mother, the women I know who had kids young are excellent mothers, but they've had to sacrifice alot and missed out on alot of things that they'd wished they could've done.

Answer 7

I would wait until you are finished college. Wanting to have a baby with your love is perfectly normal. You are 17 and still have lots of years left. Trust me. it is never too late for a baby. I'm 38 prego with my first.

Please wait. Also, how does he feel? he might want to finish college first and get a great job so he can support you and any children that come along.

Answer 8

Finish school first hun. If you are in college at 17 you are smart! And if your bf loves you that much he will understand your wanting to wait. You will appreciate the baby so much more when you know you have waited and planned for it. :)

Answer 9

finish college first have fun together like boyfriend and girlfriend going out with friends for now ,you are to young,i am 23 and married 2 years now we are planing to have children and sometimes i thick that i am still to young

Answer 10

It all depends if he want's to have a child to. I always say a baby is a blessing. It might bring you guys more close together