what should I do, and I still don't feel reassured
2007-02-15 05:02:23 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
make sure ur initials dont match the guys that she cheated on u with
2007-02-15 05:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your reassurance will come from finding out first what caused her to cheat. When problems in a relationship cause the couple to become emotionally distant from one another, sometimes the result of this will cause one partner to seek so-lice with someone else. As this is not an excuse for anyone to cheat, this does happen. First work on the cause, then you can find the solution. Know that the relationship will never be the same as it was before she cheated on you. Some couples have been known to be able to work through this, some have not. Cheating can create a lot of damage to the relationship, this people do not realise until they are faced to deal with it. In saying this, you must consider all your options to either stay or go. If you decide to stay, you and your wife must find the underlying cause of the problems in your marriage, then hopefully will be able to work through all the issues for a better beginning.. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-15 05:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kiss it good-bye buddy! A tattoo is not going to fix the trust that has been broken by her actions. You need to seek some kind of professional guidance on how to put this marriage back together. Just because she has your initials permanently inked into her body doesn't mean she is done cheating. She knew she was with you before she was tattooed and that didn't stop her then, so unless she had it put across her forehead, she is still in the game. The other men aren't going to care if she is married, let alone that she has some small tattoo on her body. You know that. My advise...get some help asap!
2007-02-15 05:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all 'cheaters always cheat' is not entirely true - that's a really cynical outlook for life, human beings and the ability for us to change over time.
That being said, the thrill of cheating is more than just sex - it's the danger, doing something risky, the lure of forbidden fruit - and it's a very powerful thing that makes it very hard for those who have tried it once to not fall into again.
Trust is a funny thing. It can be broken in an instant, and it can take years to rebuild. The tattoo with your initials isn't worth the ink that was used. Being faithful and trustworthy is only demonstrated over time.
You're not wrong to be suspicious, and your wife needs to understand that based on her history, she is going to be under suspicion for a long time. Question is, does she understand that and is she willing to live with that for as long as it takes to rebuild trust in your relationship?
Best to you both.
2007-02-15 05:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? And a tattoo with your initials wards off lovers like garlic does a vampire or silver a werewolf? Get real, man! There is either something you are not doing for your woman and that is the reason she is getting it elsewhere or she is so highly sexed that she needs more than one man to satisfy her or she is doing it as a way of telling you that she is no longer into you. Whatever the case may be a tattoo is not the solution!
2007-02-15 05:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tattoo is just ink. She could brand your picture on her face, but it couldn't restore the trust that she's broken. Walk away for a while, take at least a few weeks to yourself, and then talk about whether you want to continue in the marriage or part ways.
2007-02-15 05:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife once bought me a Target pistol that cost over $300.00 because she loved me and thought I deserved it.
It was truly the one item I had wanted but through the years never thought I would ever be able fiancially to buy and when I could I found more value in non material things
the spirit in which my wife gave me the present was non-material and I greatly appreciated it.
Well to cut to chase, the damn thing would not hit a barn door at fifty paces and constantly jammed up and finaly after 50 rounds just broke down.
I sent it off to compay of manufacture ands they returned my reapaired weapon and a letter of apology.
Next week I traded the weapon in for a more reliable and less flashy weapon.
My wife began to cry and asked why I had gotten rid of her gift and I explained why this way:
"A gun is only as good as it is reliable and once it has let you down, which may of been in a life altering situation or not, it is best to just get rid of it as you could never put your trust in it fully ever again."
She looked at me as I also added, "and that is how I judge everything and everyone including my behavior in my life".
2007-02-15 05:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she saying that your initials on her will stop her from cheating in the future? Because that makes no sense at all. If you don't trust her to be faithful to you in the future, you might as well end it now. Any relationship without trust will not last.
2007-02-15 05:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Dally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that you can work through and learn to trust her again than good. But the tattoo doesn't really mean anything because she probably didn't want to lose you so the tattoo was meant to keep you around.
2007-02-15 05:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about you, but I would be so ticked off.
I mean, what was the point of her getting your initials on her after her cheating? That dont make sense. Are you sure their your initials? I mean, could they mean something else? I wouldnt trust her anymore. Even if she did apologize, how do you know it was a sincere one? Something to think about. ?????
2007-02-15 05:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tweetalette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, you know what you need to do... She cheated. Under no circumstances will I be able to trust her again... She's just hypnotizing you with that tattoo. Wake up and run away before she totally takes advantage of you...
2007-02-15 05:06:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋