2007-02-15 04:58:02 · 20 answers · asked by nina c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok its a hell of a lot of money, enough to put a deposit on a nice house ! He doesnt treat me well at all which is why I want to leave him but I know if I do I'l never see my money again !
2007-02-15 05:05:04 · update #1
THERE IS NO WRITTEN CNTRACT - HE WONT SIGN AND THERES NO WAY TO PROVE IT !
2007-02-15 05:06:54 · update #2
Get the money then boot him out
thats kinda harsh that u want to get rid of him
2007-02-15 05:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by The J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit late for this, but 'never mix money and relationships'. Your stupid fault for being so foolish with your money. Now that you're in the mess though, I suggest covert operations. Get evidence that he owes you money - probably the only way you can is be secretly recording conversations. That will stand up in a court of law. Don't back down and be patient. In future. Pretend your poor and don't lend anyone anything, not even a penny/cent.
lots of love,
scrooge
2007-02-15 13:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by nicSTAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MMmnnn... a tricky situation, one that you must never repeat. I mean the lending of money... a friend of mine was in a similar situation except he was cheating on her too! Can you 'magic' up a 'debt' you need to repay so there is a concrete reason as far as he is concerned, for suddenly calling in the loan...??? If you dump him you more or less wave bye bye to the money.... so you have to get the money up front... How realistic is that? If it is possible to blag a debt or sudden need for the money then go for it...maybe your Mother or some such close family or friend could need the money for something and he would have to get a loan out to repay you so you "pay' them.... I don't know ... What ever it calls for an Oscar winning performance from you!!! I wish you lots of luck!
2007-02-15 13:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, enough with the bull! Being in the legal field I can guarantee you that unless he signed somthing you wont get it back. You said it yourself; he treats u badly and that's why you want to leave. I bet you gave and gave and he took and took! Has he ever given you anthing other than plowing in your insides. U can forget the money! I'M SORRY BUT THAT'S HOW IT IS! No judge will make him pay unless you have something signed. Honey, keep your money in your pocket. Remember you can do bad by yourself and no one can spend your money better than you. Well, maybe not in your case; SORRY! I bet you were trying to make him happy! And all he's brought you is MISERY!
2007-02-15 13:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A difficult one. If he is treating you REALLY bad, then no amount of money is worth hanging around for. Cut your losses and get him out of your life completely no contact at all if he is really bad.
Treat it like a lesson you have well and truly learnt and dont let it happen again with anyone else!
But if you are able to stick it out just to TRY and get the money back, do so. But this will in my opinion make you more miserable and will erode your self esteem, so i dont think its worth it.
Good luck XX
2007-02-19 10:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation last year with my man, but i waited and tried to forget the money in total and analyse our situation. My case maybe different because I love my man very much and dispite his abusive behaviour, I still wasn't sure how I could leave him and be cool. So I spoke to every possible friend and family about our situation and after having many consultations, I realised that It's possible to solve our problems.
I realised that the main person responsible for the abuse was Me, I shouldn't have let him abuse me in the first place. There is a very good book called: "Women who love too much", I recommend it. Then you will know the psycology behind your decisions of giving your money to the one you love with total trust and no logical contract.
This year, I still live with my man, but I have tried a lot to change him by not giving too much anymore, I have changed my behaviour and made him realise that He is the one who has to work hard to please me, and with everything I give, I expect things in return.
At first it was difficult for him to accept it, but now he got used to it, he has agreed to pay my money back by instalments, and I managed to seperate "love and relationship" from financial commitments.
Good luck to you
2007-02-15 16:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have all the prooof you need to prove he owes you, then take him to small claims court. IF it's alot more than your state allows in small claims, find out if an attorney can help you sue him.
They will put a wage withholding on any legal monies he receives until your paid off.
2007-02-15 13:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a scrounger and loser. It is sad but i dont think your are going to see your money again. Dont waste another minute on some one who has basically conned you, Learn from your mistakes If a man need to take money from a woman he is not a man at all. Good luck
2007-02-15 18:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by veronica forde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and be nice to him, until u get the money he owes u, if he thinks u are going to dump him he won't give u the money he owes u. that's the bad thing about giving a man money, and trusting them to pay it back to us. i would never date a needy man again, because when we have no more money they leave u, and than u see that perhaps they never loved u to begin with.
2007-02-15 13:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File suit against him! If you can prove that he owes you money it will be a lot easier. Depending on where you live, there are many legal resources you can count on. Go to your nearest courthouse to find out what is at your disposal.
2007-02-15 13:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋