Tradtionally, marriage was basically and agreement to exchange steady sex for resources. Now that women have their own resources, and sex is plentiful for anyone who wants it, why should a man get married? Haven't we determined that people don't stay in love that long anymore anyway? Besides, women are so much like men today, it's not even like you're gaining any sort of beautiful feminine energy into your life anyway. So tell me, why commit yourself to one woman for your entire life? What does a man gain out of the deal?
2007-02-15 04:40:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How...a question that actually made me go "hmmm".
You're right!! Women of today (thank you feminism) are so busy trying to accomplish as much as a man, that men might as well marry a man!!
It was very hard for me when I married a second time, to give up my job and raise my family, and care for my household....a very "traditional" role...because I was raised by a die-hard feminist.
My mother drilled it in to me to never depend on a man, always make my own way, and take care of myself. I believe it was her steadfast training....some might call it brainwashing...that ruined my first marriage. I spent more time at work, neglected my husband, which caused him to cheat on me....(yes, I'm one of the few women out there who take some responsibilty for their man cheating).
After more than a year being a Stay-at-home mom, I realize the most important thing I can do for my boys, is show them, by example, how a loving mother and wife acts. I don't rush off to the office everyday. Some days, I don't shower till 4 pm because I'm busy doing their laundry, and caring for their baby sister. We have dinner together every night at 6 when their step-dad gets home, and we have corny traditions like family night "Survivor" night (thursday nights)....
As a result, my sons are more open to me, talk to me about their problems, because I've created a nurturing home for them.
My ex-husband has more respect for me, and treats me way better now than he ever did when we were married.
My current husband adores me, he has gained a partner....not someone to compete with in business and accomplishments. He goes out and earns the money....I stay home, care for the house and the kids, and make it a happy place to come home to. I'm not stressed out from working when he comes home, I'm his loving wife....
Best job ever!
2007-02-15 04:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not the guy at work. There are no guarantees. But you shouldn't let that stop you. Let your courtship be long, ask a lot of questions, find out her values, her interests and her plans for the future, tell her yours see if you might be a match. When you do get married, be giving, loving and kind to each other. There will be a lot of trails and tribulations along the way and it will take co operation from both sides to make it work. There are more marriages out there that last until death do us part than you think. Who ever told you 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce is full of it.
2016-05-24 03:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
traditionally and currently marriage is a commitment and partnership, and is most often about having a family or becoming family. believe it or not, some people have the capacity to feel this thing called "love" and some men wish to spend their lives with the woman they love.
and i don't know what sorta butch women you've been dating, but i don't know of many women who are so much like men that they have no femininity! i may have a job and make the money in the familly, but i am not like a man. if you dont want to get married, don't. no one is forcing you.
my husband doesn't have much in the way of family, but he wants one, as do i. we've become family for each other, and in marriage we are legally recognized as such. there's also a sense of security that we both have, knowing that the other is truly commited to the relationship.
2007-02-15 05:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us "Men" believe in having a nice FAMILY. Too many people these days have 50 kids, but arent married, and have sex in their trailer until the get fat then nobody wants them anymore, and they dont know they kids to all these different women.
Get a clue, Marriage isnt about exchanging sex for resourses, its about being with one person that you cant stand to be without. Taking care of them, and having children that get the chance to grow up with both a mommy and daddy.
That was my incentive. Seems to be working out well. IM HAPPY
2007-02-15 04:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by The Date Doctor 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Getting married for a steady sex life isn't always true....i got married and the sex dropped off,maybe once or twice a month,i had more sex when i was single.
I am going through a divorce right now and probably will never get married again...We was only married 2 years.
I know i will catch alot of flak for this but.....
Why buy the farm when you can have the crops for free.
2007-02-15 05:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by crazycul1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what a man gains out of the deal. I don't know what a woman gains out of the deal. A legitimate mother and father for your children. A life long partner. Someone to be there for your through good times and bad. Group health insurance. It's a personal choice. You get out of something what you put into it.
2007-02-15 04:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to spend the rest of your life with the lady you love?
most men i think get married because the women pressure them into it..
they want their big day.. the perfect dress the flowers all eyes on them...
so i think its to make the lady happy
2007-02-15 04:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay single Joe no one proposed to u
2007-02-15 04:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by LaToya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he's in love.
2007-02-15 05:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋