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I have a friend (male) who got married just a few days ago.... We've been friends for about, five years now & for the past four we were very close, he has always been inlove with me, but I'm inlove with someone else, who I'm in a committed relationship with. My friend told me that even though he's married, he still has
alot of feelings for me... that he can't ignore...He thought that committing to someone else would erase those feelings, but as you can tell, it hasn't.
The problem for me is, I've never met his wife & somehow I feel like I'm doing alot of wrong by letting him express his feelings in this way, even though I know its the best thing to be honest & a loyal friend. But i don't think being a loyal friend is going to help him move on. Should I do him a favour & stop communicating with him? I feel really bad for his wife.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???

2007-02-15 04:29:11 · 13 answers · asked by Lue 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

This is for the first three people that can't read and understand: I'm not after him, i don't want him to be my man...did you miss that? And We've NEVER been together... Just friends..

2007-02-15 04:40:36 · update #1

Tell me about it LOLA....

2007-02-15 04:41:37 · update #2

13 answers

I think doing him a favor and stopping communication is the perfect idea. He'll be hurt and you'll feel bad for him, but he needs to face reality. He's married! If you were his wife I'm sure you'd want some other woman in the same position to stay away from him too.

2007-02-15 04:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0 0

Yes. If he cant accept that you only want to be friends, and he insists on having these feelings for you, you should cut off communication. Oh, and if he married his wife to try and get you off his mind, dont be surprised if his marriage dont work out in the long run regardless of his relationship (or lack of relationship) with you. That was the wrong reason to get married in the first place.

2007-02-15 04:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by reconnermom 3 · 0 0

This one is tricky.
Honestly he doesn't sound like much of a man if he just got married and is hitting on you, dear. I'd keep my distance. Tell him you are involved with someone you really love and care about and don't want to ruin it.
I feel BAD for his new wife.

2007-02-15 04:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1 0

I would tell him that you don't have these feelings for him ,you are with someone else and that he needs to stop acting like a fool and commit to his wife, if not you will stop all communication with him and tell his new wife!

2007-02-15 04:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by lilred25smc 2 · 1 0

Bets bet is to STOP ALL COMMUNICATION... You dont want him as a lover. He can't think of you as anything but a lover. To top it he's married. you'll in fact be doin a favor to his wife n married life if you choose to move OUT of his life.

May God bless your soul if you do so.

2007-02-15 04:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 1 0

Stop the communication. You could ruin a marriage quck that way and that is not something you want to be responsible for that

2007-02-15 04:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by royalpainshane 3 · 0 0

It is so like duh you dont have th some feelings for him that he has for you i think you should tell him you are just friends and if he cant stop the feelings or at least hide them you cant continue the friendship any longer. P.S. you are not in the wrong so dont feel bad

2007-02-15 05:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by bouty btch 1 · 0 0

Yaaaaaaaaawn

2007-02-15 04:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

wow, thats a big problem. first off, you gotta give it up to your friend for having the cojones to tell you how he feels and trying to get over you. Basicly the ball is in your court, but whatever you do, dont tell his wife, that is betrayal.

good luck

2007-02-15 04:35:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0 1

Move on -and leave him alone. Time will tell.
He may end up being happy.
Or they may end up divorced and he finds his way back to you.
FATE WILL TELL.
If not move on

2007-02-15 04:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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