the reason we live together at such a young age is beacuse i used to live with my aunt and my uncle did something inapproprate and i told my aunt then she kicked me out. i had no where to go soo my b/fs parents let stay with them. his family doesnt have a lot of money soo after a few months they coldnt afford to have me there so we got place of our own..... my uncle finally told my aunt the truth and she apologized ive forgiven both of them but im not sure if thats the right decision!!! so thats another problem and i dont talk to my mother so i cant live with her my life is a mess!!!! help please
2007-02-15 04:17:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgive and forget your life isnt messed up. Only you think that way, talk to your aunt AND uncle. get a better job, if you didn't finish school do so, so you can better yourself. Youc an start new
2007-02-15 04:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by apple|addikt. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be time for you to establish your own life and identity.
If you can afford your own place or with a female room mate it might help you.
Your life is not that big a mess. You recognize that things are not right. That will keep you out of a lot of very messy situations.
It sounds like you have been challenged by not having many helpful adults around.
I think I would stay with the forgiveness, as dislike will only sour your personality. Perhaps you can request some rent assistance from them for a couple months.
Stay with it , set up your life so you can gain some self reliance.
Good Luck.
2007-02-15 12:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide if you should end, or leave a relationship. You haven't said why you're questioning the relationship, other than your age. As for whether or not you should forgive your aunt, absolutely! As human beings, we all make mistakes. So unless you're perfect, forgive her. It was probably a shock for her when you told her about your uncle. Move forward, life is too short to live it blaming and staying angry at others.
2007-02-15 12:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear your story. First of all i think you should make up your mind and decide which place will be good for you. What if your uncle are back to his normal habits of harrassing you. If you really dont have anywhere to stay, i think you can stay in a cheap guest house and quickly find a work or something..But i guess that is very difficult for you at this age.
2007-02-15 12:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by angela_hsiung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, so sorry about all of this.
Sweetheart, trust is trust and violation is violation.
Period.
Forgive, but never put yourself in the same situation.
Now, there is absolutely nothing in here about why you would leave your boyfriend, except for your family.
Either you're trying too hard to get your family back, or you never really loved him anyway and he's just convenient- which happens, sweetie, I know.
So, if you have no reason to leave him don't leave him.
If you have a good reason to leave him, don't go back to these people.
Don't search for people to be safe people when they're not.
2007-02-15 12:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there. I am so sorry to hear that you and your mother aren't close. I am glad to see that you have forgiven your aunt but, she showed you just how much you could trust her. Who are you trying to leave ? Is it your boyfriend? If so why? You haven't said too much on that.
2007-02-15 12:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Marcia G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, your question is too disjointed and hard to understand. Take a little longer and explain the situation. I can't understand what you're asking here.
2007-02-15 12:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was all over the place. what was your question? which relationship? your aunt & uncle ? what?!
2007-02-15 12:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋