My 12 year old daughter is in middle school and all she wants to wear are ugly jeans and wrecked or ruined black old 80's concert shirts to school. Is this just a phase and she will grow out of it? In the 80's only the stoner dudes wore those. She isn't a stoner at all. She thinks she is a skater chick. It is so ugly. She is cute and skinny and blonde with green eyes. Why oh why does she wear the uglies clothes? Do you have any suggestions or does your 12 year old dress like that too?
2007-02-15 04:16:55 · 12 answers · asked by Suzy G 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Ok here is the bad part. I let her see my old White Snake concert shirt and she loves it. Her Dad gave her his old Rolling Stones concert shirt and she loves it. You can't just go buy these shirts. I never thought she would wear them. I don't hassle her too much and I do take her shopping. She picks out scull shirts and ugly jeans with holes. What is a Mom to do? I just remember in 1978 when the drugs were so close. I know she would never do those but then who knows what is out there now and the boys are what she is trying to impress. Don't boys like girls in pretty outfits or at lease some pink? She has a great body and I just don't get it. She is a perfect size 1.
2007-02-15 05:30:28 · update #1
How funny! I went through that phase too when I was 13 or 14 - I'm 32 now, this was during the late 80's, I can't believe they still wear those old concert T-shirts!
I snapped out of it by the time I hit 16. Suggestion - what snapped me out of it was my mom taking me to get a makeover / shopping, which gave me alot more confidence in myself and made me want to dress prettier rather than faddish. It made me more interested in being a "girly girl". Thats more of a passive approach you could take with her. But no matter what you do, don't worry about it, she'll definately grow out of it. She's just trying to find herself and conform to whatever clique she's running with, its perfectly normal.
For the stoner part- she probably has tried smoking pot, or will at some point, but don't worry about that either. As long as you're a good mother to her (which you must be or you wouldnt be asking about it on here) thats all she will need to see her through her teenage years. It's the "stoner" kids that don't have good parenting that never make it out of the "phase" and turn into bums / losers after high school.
2007-02-15 04:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my daughter is a beautiful high school girl and I would buy her what ever clothes she wants, but she has chosen to wear jeans and t shirts that she makes herself. Maybe it is the style. But if she was young again, I would try some reverse psychology but I would have to know your daughter better to go about this. Maybe pretending you like her shirts. The other thing I do in my house, is if you think you can do it without getting caught, find the shirts you hate the most put them in a plastic grocery bag, tie the top and throw it away at the gas station garbage. Then tell her you have no idea where it disappeared to. She may still wear some of them, but at least you could get rid of a couple you really hate. Or if I am not sure about how she might react I hide a peice of clothing on a trial basis and if she throws a fit then it mysterously shows up. But you are the mom so matter what and with out being sneaky, I refuse to let my daughter wear risque immodest or clothes that have something off color written on them. Put your foot down on that and let her know where you stand. When my oldest daughter moved back in with me I told her if she brought something in my house that she knew I wouldn't approve of, if I found it I would throw it away and not ask to do so. It's your house and you may not be able to control the things outside of your house but you can control what's in it.
2007-02-15 04:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pick your battles. This one isn't that bad. You may think its ugly, but she doesn't. Let her explore her own personality. She will grow out of it. My brother dressed like that for years and hes 32 now with an excellent job wearing "normal" casual clothes. I dressed til I was 17 as a tom boy. I bet you wore clothes your parents didn't care too much for but they probably worried more about you actually being a stoner or something else. At least she isn't showing herself off in almost non existant clothes. She will grow out of it. Be happy she is being who she wants to be not what other people are doing or dressing like.
2007-02-15 04:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They ALL go through that stage, and my daughter sounds just like yours. If you gripe too much, it is just going to make her more determined to be "herself", and will cause alot of useless arguments. Give her one year, and then she will figure out that boys are around... it will change then... Then, there is a whole NEW set of problems!! By the way, when I say don't argue with her, I mean that you should compromise. She can wear what she wants on a normal basis, but if it is an occasion that needs proper attire, then she dresses up for it. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 04:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by WyldeFaerie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her be who she wants to be! You shouldn't be criticizing your daughter. 12 year olds do go through phases, but you just have to deal with it. In a couple of years, she'll stop wearing 'ugly' clothes when all the other kids do. It's just what's in for her age right now. Anyway, if you're her mom why did you let her buy them? Didn't you ever go through a similar phase when you were her age?
2007-02-15 05:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Pieces Of Rainbowzz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is trying ot find herself.....she also may have been picked on by the other girls,a nd this has made her feel like she wants to join this skater group....It is a phase, and hopefully she will come out of it soon.....I think it is just that her body is changing and developing.....and she is still a bit of a tomboy......she needs to know that it is ok to be both a girl and skate.
2007-02-15 04:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 & have been through so many phases as far as clothing goes. I was also about 12 years old when I went through that stage too... Of course I grew out of it, and I'm sure your daughter will too. My mom did complain to me about what I wore, but continued to let me wear what I wanted. Yes, what I wore was ridiculous, but I respect my mom for letting me choose what i wanted to wear. Good luck! :)
2007-02-15 04:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by sLb♥CeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase that a lot of teenage girls go through. Relax, she'll eventually grow out of it.
2007-02-15 05:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Evelyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a phase. She's trying to find herself. It's normal.
2007-02-15 04:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
made for her tailord short trousers (3/4 long) and fit coat in black color..she will love it, maybe she will put more pin on the coat..but she look more formal than before, but she still rock star and "in" on fashion 2007...try it
2007-02-15 05:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by bali girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋