My boyfriend (32) did not get me (27) anything for Valentines, and he didn't even excuse himself. He took me to dinner to his friends restaurant, were the check was taken care off by this same friend. It made me happy because "we" saved money! I had personally bought tickets online to see the 10:10pm show of "Music and Lyrics." But after dinner we head over to his house, and wait for the movie to start. Meanwhile, his taking care of his things without realizing that I am bored, and would rather him to take care of it in his own time. He doesn't get it! I took this time to give him his gifts ($120.00) hoping that he would do the same after I was done, but he didn't. We then go to the movies, come back home, and he has his friend come over. They are talking and at this point is 2am and I am tired from the night before (we went to sleep about the same time) I am upset at this point, but don't make it obvious, went to sleep without having any sex. He was upset...I am upset, geese! NO GIFT
2007-02-15 04:14:41 · 10 answers · asked by Elizabeth 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Keep in mind that we have had three years of relationship, and not once has he given me anything. Last year I paid for dinner, and got him a gift. This year he got lucky without having to pay. I don't want to have to base a decision of this. But damn it - how do I get over it or what should I do?
2007-02-15 06:26:17 · update #1
You guys are way pass the "I don't know what you like" stage. There is no reason why he shouldn't have gotten you anything unless he couldn't afford anything. (you know the answer to that) If he could've then he should've. But you have to look at the other side of this situtation. You said that he hasn't ever gotten you anything. He probably thinks that its ok not to get you anything.. i know that seems weird to us girls, but he's a guy. They don't always see things the way that we do. You have to remember that they need things explained to them. Sweety if you're waiting for him to guess or figure it out, you won't ever get anything. We sometimes forget that they aren't mind readers. (Helpful reminder, he's not) Tell him how you feel and if he's shows you some compassion you know you guys will be fine. (What ever you do don't blow up on him. Tell him in a calm manner)
2007-02-15 07:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm...I didn't even look that far into what happened with me. I got a chocolate rose that I ate and a card, and I got my bills paid and a t.v., but you see all of these things were paid commonly by us. I am so thankful just to have him. Some people put their money into it and others put their hearts into it, you might be one of those people that puts both in it. Let him know that you were hoping he could come up with something romantic. Maybe he can take this hint for your birthday, or Christmas. Good luck.
2007-02-15 12:19:20 · answer #2 · answered by Girl, Empty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your'e bummed that you two missed the opportunity to have some special time together for Valentine's day and that you would like both of you to do something special for each other this coming weekend.
(This way he won't feel like you have your hand out, selfishly expecting him to throw down cash for you to celebrate a cheesy commercialized holiday.)
You cannot hint around with guys. They have to be told very directly what you expect and the sooner we ladies learn this the better off we will be! ;-) lol (It's true, though!!!!)
2007-02-15 15:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him. The #1 warning sign of a doomed relationship is a boyfriend who doesn't give you anything romantic for V-Day. He is clearly just going through the motions and doesn't feel romantic love for you.
It only takes a few minutes to make a hearfelt card, write a cute silly poem, rub your feet, make silly love coupons for backrubs, sex, etc. There is absolutely no excuse for him not giving you anything.
2007-02-15 12:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is a very cheap person. It is especially bad since you got expensive gifts. You have to decide if you want to spend anymore time with a person like that. It is not going to get any better.
2007-02-15 12:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks!! i would have said something. like "where is my v-day present?" "are my flowers being delivered today? they are probably running late, because its such a big holiday for them" you know?...hint like you are waiting for SOMETHING...anything!! but kind of make it sound like you are joking.
you poor thing. (good job on the no sex tho! he doesnt deserve sex after you spend 120 dollars on him, and he took you to a free dinner!)
2007-02-15 12:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your damn right you should be mad!!! It was nice for his friend to take care of the bill, but to invite his friends over on vday?!?! Unacceptable!!! I would be mad too=(
2007-02-15 12:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Tulip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUMP HIM. Done. End of story.
2007-02-15 12:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say
that you shuold
just assume that he did not have enough money.
hugs!
2007-02-15 12:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by chicago cub's bat bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it; ok.
2007-02-15 12:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by 1978nevaeh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋