I'm talking about relationship wise. I'm only asking out of curisity and was wondering if anyone has been in this situation before and if you have how was your relationship and how long did you stay together for? Do you think it's a good idea for two people to stay together for that reason? I am just wondering no reason why I'm asking this. It just popped into my head and I wanted to ask out of curiosity.
2007-02-15 04:12:18 · 10 answers · asked by Irish Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I have. When I was almost 18 (many years ago now) I started a new job and got friendly with a colleague of mine. He was 29 at the time. For our separate reasons, neither of us wanted to be alone, so we got together. Almost 2 years later we moved in together then sadly split up just over 6 months later, because we were really just friends. We stayed in close contact, the best of friends really, I got myself a new man however he found it really hard to get with someone, because lots of women he got with were jealous of our relationship and could not understand that it was purely platonic, no spark there and certainately no intention to try again. Now tho I'm glad to say he's been with his girlfriend about 3 years ( the same length of time I've been with my new man) and she is great for him and understands exactly about our relationship. This guy is like my best friend now really (other than my boyfriend) and I would not change a thing. When we were together, we were I suppose living like flatmates but drawing comfort off the affection that we were receiving from the other one. I did love him when I was 18, he taught me so much and was always patient and kind with me, we experienced lots together. But when I was 18, I did not fully understand love, as much as I did understand it, I loved him however as I got older and understood more about love, I realised I didn't love him in the right way. Hope this makes sense and answers your questions?
2007-02-15 04:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Joyful97 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are looking to hit a dead end. Why would anybody consider being in that type of relationship. It screams out "desperation." There is more to a relationship than not wanting to be alone. It's really a sad situation to be in.
2007-02-15 12:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been in a relationship like that but my ex is and he admitted it to me. He still loves me but I don't want him and he is with her b/c he was in jail for so long and I don't live near him. So instead he hooks up with her but now he is regretting it and he keeps saying he don't know what to do.
This type of relationship is not healthy and it does not go anywhere for either side of the relationship. It's a disaster waiting to happen.
2007-02-15 12:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was a very, very short relationship. The trouble is, it's often not until after it ends, or when it gets near the end you realize you were in it for all the wrong reasons.
2007-02-15 12:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Felicity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have but only for a very short period of time. It is not a good idea if you are looking for a long-term relationship.
2007-02-15 12:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by hhfe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends if you like the other person, it might work, but if you dont feel anithing and you are just there for not being alone!! it wont work out!!
I was with someone for about 3 months and even though i tried he never liked me plus it wasnt confortable to be with him!! Im not doing it again!! I'd rather be alone!
2007-02-15 12:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by yeya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have. And it was okay. she was a little weird though. It went on and off like 4 times. It wasn't too much fun that way and it wasted a lot of time. I could have dated around alot in that amount of time.
2007-02-15 12:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by date doctor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, i did it. It lasted for a couple of months. It was helpful it made us both realize that we were supposed to be just friends. We were both using each other for comfort and we admitted it. Sex was great and so was everything else so we have no regrets.
2007-02-15 12:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Alise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, for 15 years. Such a waste of time and youth.
2007-02-15 12:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in a six year relationship that started out as love but then evolved into not wanting to be alone and it was four years of hell and was hard to end. i finnaly cheated to end it and it got nasty.she killed my dog and nailed him to my door and set the corps on fire
2007-02-15 12:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋